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If you were in a relationship that ended with one of you not feeling like you were able to do or say whatever you needed to to offer a proper farewell, then there won’t be closure. If you were hoping that you could still be friends, or at least friendly enough to pick up the phone every few months and see how each other is doing, is too hurt or angry to have any kind of interaction, then, again, closure is not available to you. If that other person is not willing to do whatever is required for you both to get to a place of feeling complete, then at least one of you will not be able to have the closure you need to fully move on with your life. If that is the case, then you must sort it out on your own. I would advise that you do some kind of ritual or therapeutic process to create the closure you need. That’s why I did my forgiveness process. I did not need my ex to work through it.

Here are some suggestions that could possibly help any of you who feel like you have “unfinished business” with a past love. (Of course, this can also apply to non-romantic relationships as well.)

Rituals:
There are a variety of rituals you could perform that could help ease the pain in your heart. One might be to right a letter to the person with whom you are desiring closure. This letter is for you, not for them. You should never send them the letter. What you need to write depends on you. What feelings are still bubbling up within you, uninvited? What do you need to say that you never got to say? Do you need to get angry? Do you need to express whatever emotions get triggered every time you think of them? Whatever comes to mind should be written down. continued    previous

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