It Takes So Little to Please Most Men

“Men need a safe environment in which to express a fuller range of emotions. In our culture today, we, their romantic partners, are the only outlet for that expression.”    Men Made Easy

A loose and probably less-than-scientific poll––but significant all the same, because real men responded––was taken by the Fashion Police, a column featured in the Los Angeles Times Life & Style section.

Are you ready for something you already knew? Men, across the line, not only prefer, but absolutely, totally, inexplicably, LOVE women in pumps. And why not; we look beautiful, feminine, and sexy in them. And they hate big, fat, chunky shoes. I have to agree. Thank goodness shoes have become feminine once again. We look not only unfeminine in them, we look dumb. Yes, high heels hurt our feet, but once in a whilehttp://www.alivewithlove.com.for him?

The difficulty is getting our men to take us out so we can wear those pumps. Maybe that’s the key. “Hey, honey, will you take me dancing? I’ll wear those sexy high heels you love.” Another idea, maybe you don’t need to leave the bedroom.

What else do men go crazy for? Well, a lot of men like nail polish. But don’t let the nails get too long. They especially like polished toenails. Nail polish can turn ordinary feet into something sexy and beautiful. Notice how your feet look without nail polish. They’re just feet, right? Then look how feminine they become with some hot red polish. You’ve got to admit they’re prettier.

Any time you do something to look sexy for a man he’ll like it. It means you’re interested. And they definitely like that.

Of course there’s the garter belt thing. And how you take off a pair of stockings. Be the vamp that knows how to turn your man into putty. It’s an exhilarating experience. And it makes you feel gorgeous.

It’s interesting and kind of sad, but women often turn up their noses when I tell them about these sexy little things that men like. When I ask them if they’ve ever tried it, they’re the same ones who usually say no. Somehow it seems they think pleasing their husband or boyfriend in those ways is demeaning. Or maybe they don’t want to think their man has those kinds of desires.

When two people love each other, and no one will be harmed, why not give them whatever pleasure you can? It will keep him interested and wanting to please you, to do things to make you happy, to be your hero.

Does he do things for you? How does it feel when he does? Especially those thoughtful little things that show he’s sensitive to what you like. It goes both ways.Maybe he doesn’t do things for you. Maybe years ago, when you lost interest in sex and he had to demean himself to beg for it, he quit thinking of you as the women he adored. Or maybe you’re both deliriously happy with each other and things are off the charts. There’s still no reason why you can’t be imaginative and try new things.

In my book, Men Made Easy, I explain that the only way most men know how to be intimate is through sex. It is the one socially acceptable way for men to express their love. If you can go the extra mile and titillate him, you’re giving him the opportunity to show his love more often. So, get out those pumps and show that man of yours a really good time. –Show this article to your husband or boyfriend and ask him what he thinks. Then contact and tell me what he said.

Talking Turn-Ons

A great way to add spice to your love life, keep your partner’s interest up (so to speak), as well as your own, is to talk sexy. The best way to describe what I mean is to give you some examples.

1. In bed: During lovemaking, in those times of rest, in between the high energy times, talk about what you just did and how it made you feel; what your partner did and how it made you feel; how your partner reacted to something you did. Say things like, “When I swirled my tongue around the tip of your penis, and touched your testicles, I loved how you reacted, the noises you made. It really turned me on. And when you stroked the inside of my thigh with that feather light touch, I could feel electricity running through me. It was great.” This is a way to make love all over again, get turned on again, and communicate all the things that worked. You can learn a lot about each other this way.
2. On the phone: Call your partner and either speak to them directly or if they aren’t in, leave them a message. Be sure no one else will hear it. An example might be, “Hi, I was just thinking of what you did to me last night, how you got on top of me and looked at me that way. It really got me hot.” Who and what will they be thinking about?
3. In cards, letters or eMail: Send notes describing what you might want to do or how something you have done recently or that you haven’t done in a while would turn you on. Don’t be afraid to go into details. Be erotic, sexy, nasty, whatever you know would turn on your partner.
4. Anywhere around the house or when you’re out: If you’re in the kitchen, the bathroom, when you’re driving in the car, at a party, lecture, or movie, lean over and say something seductive that you know will turn on your partner. Maybe suggest a fantasy, like making love on the kitchen counter, or in the shower. And, ladies, it’s amazing the reaction you can get and the attention throughout the evening if you announce when you’re on your way or at a function that you’re not wearing panties.

This kind of talk is a way to keep the special intimacy that you share, keep your interest and focus on sex, communicate what you like and want, and keep your sexual energy flowing. If you’re tentative just start a little at a time. Be respectful of each other and stay alert to what works and doesn’t. Experiment, be creative, and most importantly, have fun.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™

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