Be Sexy and Sensual

 

“As you cultivate your Feminine Grace, you’ll like your body more, be more comfortable expressing yourself, and relax. As you do so, your ability to enjoy sex will expand and you’ll become a more enthusiastic, available partner. The more you do that, the more love and intimacy you will create with your partner. From there, romance will flow, because he won’t be able to get you off his mind.” Men Made Easy

To be fully a woman, you must connect with your most sensual self. Sensuality is much more than just sex. It is the celebration of all the senses.

When you allow yourself to fully embrace the ecstasy of the sights, sounds, smells, tastes and textures of all that swirls around you, then, and only then will you feel fully alive. Your sensual self is the part of you that is able to celebrate the dance of life.

Read my current articles and key an eye out for upcoming posts by signing up for my newsletter. Ask for advice, and relish that part of you that is primal and real.

Some of the articles are necessarily graphic. If you are uncomfortable about explicit discussions of sexuality, don’t read my articles on sex and sensuality.

Without information, we go forward in ignorance. Ignorance causes unwanted pregnancy, disease and heartache. Love-making grows out of love and an understanding of ourselves, our partner and the joy of shared pleasure.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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It Takes So Little to Please Most Men

“Men need a safe environment in which to express a fuller range of emotions. In our culture today, we, their romantic partners, are the only outlet for that expression.”    Men Made Easy

A loose and probably less-than-scientific poll––but significant all the same, because real men responded––was taken by the Fashion Police, a column featured in the Los Angeles Times Life & Style section.

Are you ready for something you already knew? Men, across the line, not only prefer, but absolutely, totally, inexplicably, LOVE women in pumps. And why not; we look beautiful, feminine, and sexy in them. And they hate big, fat, chunky shoes. I have to agree. Thank goodness shoes have become feminine once again. We look not only unfeminine in them, we look dumb. Yes, high heels hurt our feet, but once in a whilehttp://www.alivewithlove.com.for him?

The difficulty is getting our men to take us out so we can wear those pumps. Maybe that’s the key. “Hey, honey, will you take me dancing? I’ll wear those sexy high heels you love.” Another idea, maybe you don’t need to leave the bedroom.

What else do men go crazy for? Well, a lot of men like nail polish. But don’t let the nails get too long. They especially like polished toenails. Nail polish can turn ordinary feet into something sexy and beautiful. Notice how your feet look without nail polish. They’re just feet, right? Then look how feminine they become with some hot red polish. You’ve got to admit they’re prettier.

Any time you do something to look sexy for a man he’ll like it. It means you’re interested. And they definitely like that.

Of course there’s the garter belt thing. And how you take off a pair of stockings. Be the vamp that knows how to turn your man into putty. It’s an exhilarating experience. And it makes you feel gorgeous.

It’s interesting and kind of sad, but women often turn up their noses when I tell them about these sexy little things that men like. When I ask them if they’ve ever tried it, they’re the same ones who usually say no. Somehow it seems they think pleasing their husband or boyfriend in those ways is demeaning. Or maybe they don’t want to think their man has those kinds of desires.

When two people love each other, and no one will be harmed, why not give them whatever pleasure you can? It will keep him interested and wanting to please you, to do things to make you happy, to be your hero.

Does he do things for you? How does it feel when he does? Especially those thoughtful little things that show he’s sensitive to what you like. It goes both ways.Maybe he doesn’t do things for you. Maybe years ago, when you lost interest in sex and he had to demean himself to beg for it, he quit thinking of you as the women he adored. Or maybe you’re both deliriously happy with each other and things are off the charts. There’s still no reason why you can’t be imaginative and try new things.

In my book, Men Made Easy, I explain that the only way most men know how to be intimate is through sex. It is the one socially acceptable way for men to express their love. If you can go the extra mile and titillate him, you’re giving him the opportunity to show his love more often. So, get out those pumps and show that man of yours a really good time. –Show this article to your husband or boyfriend and ask him what he thinks. Then contact and tell me what he said.

How Do You Know When He Really Loves You?

Your primary sense of self is through your relationships–as a mother, a friend, and a wife and lover; his is his success as a man.” Men Made Easy

Everyone has their own best way of expressing and experiencing love. Men are often uncomfortable with strong emotions, partly because they have been conditioned to avoid them. Men can fall pretty hard when they do allow themselves to love, and that often scares them. Some even say they feel they will lose themselves if they love too freely. So, often they keep themselves under control.

Your partner may have a way of expressing love to you which is too subtle for you to notice. Or, maybe it’s in a form that you don’t automatically respond to because it’s not your best way to receive love. Most people give love in the way they would like to receive it. And they way people learn to give and receive love has a lot do to with how they learned it in their families. If you were held a lot but never were told with words that you were loved, then you probably need touching more than the words “I love you.” He’s the same way.

So, in order to better receive his love, when you know your man is feeling particularly comfortable with you, ask him: “When you’re experiencing the strongest feelings of love for me, in what way do you usually express it?”

You may be surprised to find that he’s been expressing his love all along but in ways that you were not equipped to notice. Knowing that it is more difficult for men to express these feelings, and less easy for them to change, learn to receive his love with a newfound openness. As he’s speaking, listen without comment. The quieter you are, the safer he’ll feel expressing himself. Remember that this may be new territory for him. After he’s done talking, don’t comment in any “editorial” way. Let him know you appreciate what he said by snuggling with him.

At another time ask him how he’d most like to receive your love, then ask if he would like to hear your answer to those questions. You’ll both gain new clarity about an often fuzzy subject.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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A “Husband Shopping Center”

A “Husband Shopping Center” was opened where a woman could go to choose from among many men for a husband. It was laid out in five floors, with the men increasing in positive attributes as you ascended up the floors. The only rule was, once you opened the door to any floor, you must choose a man from that floor, and if you went up a floor, you couldn’t go back down except to leave the place.

So, a couple of girlfriends go to the place to find men.

First floor, the door had a sign saying “These men have jobs and love kids.” The women read the sign and say “Well that’s better than not having jobs, or not loving kids, but I wonder what’s further up?”

So up they go. Second floor says “These men have high paying jobs, love kids, and are extremely good looking” Hmmm, say the girls. But, I wonder what’s further up?”.

Third floor: “These men have high paying jobs, are extremely good looking, love kids and help with the housework.” Wow, say the women! Very tempting, but, there’s more further up! And so again, they go up.

Fourth floor: “These men have high paying jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.” Oh, mercy me. But just think!?!?! What must be awaiting us further on!

So up to the fifth floor they go. The sign on that door said: “This floor is just to prove that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping, and have a nice day.”

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Stop Looking For Instant Love!

A woman wrote to me asking me how she could get a man to fall in love with her. This is a man she barely knows. This kind of thinking really scares me.  It’s fine to meet a man and be attracted and intrigued, but to move from “Nice to meet you,” immediately to “Choose me, love me, marry me,” is a recipe for disaster. Almost everyone we meet doesn’t work out, no matter how strong the attraction is.

When you barely know a man, it’s important to keep your rational mind in gear. And don’t forget to use the brakes!

If this is something you tend to do I recommend you take a look at how unhealthy this thinking is. Step back and look at the bigger picture. HE IS A STRANGER. How can you want a total stranger to fall in love with you or want to marry you? It should take months of getting acquainted to get to that point. Yes, there are those rare couples who met and immediately knew and stay happily married forever. But it’s rare.

Unfortunately, romance novels and romantic movies perpetuate this idea that love is instant and everything can be put together with a great big bow tied on it in 90 minutes. That’s not how life works.

Making mental plans for the future with a total stranger is the kind of thinking that gets women in trouble. You get emotionally invested WAY too soon and then when it doesn’t work out, which most beginnings don’t, you have to go through the heartbreakhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.over a stranger. You need to be careful of your heart. It’s a precious thing to give your heart to another. Don’t hand it over so easily. Be cautious, careful and thoughtful. And you’re less likely to chase a man off because you become needy and clingy. No one can protect your heart except you.

So now that you have stepped back, with the intention of taking it slow, one step at a time instead of jumping off the cliff, unaware if there are rocks beneath the surface, here are some tips on how to get a man to fall for you. To begin with, if you follow the Secrets in Men Made Easy you will be different than any woman he’s ever met. Here’s why.

Men Made Easy will teach you why men fall for you because you’ve learned that the following behavior will cause a man to be excited to know you better, win his heart, and cause him to fall in love with you:. You need to develop your Feminine Grace, which includes the following:

1. Be beautiful in how you are.
2. Be happy, cheerful and positive.
3. Don’t complain about anything that happened in your past or what is going on currently. Complaining, about anything, is always ‘ugly.’
4. Don’t lose control of your emotions.
5. Remind him regularly what you appreciate about him.
6. Let him take care of you, to be your hero. Always thank him and let him know how happy he makes you for how he takes care of you.
7. Don’t have sex until you have a conversation where you BOTH agree to be exclusing, not dating or having sex with anyone else. If you do, you’ll probably destroy his interest, plus, you will feel bad for having sex with a stranger who doesn’t want to see you again.
8. Don’t try to figure out if he’s going to hurt you some day. Just get to know him, who he is, how he looks at life, how fun he is, how considerate and respectful, etc. Basically, don’t “interview” him for the job of your boyfriend.
9. Remember that he wants to be with a woman who makes him feel good and who is enjoyable to be with.

You may think this is a lot of work on your part. But look at each item on that list and notice how it will make you feel to behave that way. Everything I teach is about how you can be happierhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.with you, your life and with a man. The goal in understanding men is so you can know what will cause him to fall in love with you, to cherish you and never want to risk losing you. But you have to do your part to make that a reality. You lead and he will follow. Demanding any of that will only chase him away. You’ll learn how to create an amazing relationship when you embrace your Feminine Grace and use the Secrets about men to create the love you crave.

From my heart to yours,

 The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

What Makes Men Easy?

A new male friend on facebook wrote and asked what makes men easy.

Here’s what I told him:

I studied men for a couple of years and I came up with 12 Secrets About Men. The first and the last are what makes a man easyhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.as in easy to be in a relationship with. The secrets in the middle are how to do the first and last secrets well.

In the first Secret I teach women to be beautiful in how they are, rather than ugly, which a lot of women are. By ugly I mean, whining, complaining, emasculating, out-of-control emotions, blaming, trying to change him, etc. By beautiful is be kind, gracious, happy, playful, appreciative and able to communicate needs in such a way that it is win/win for both sides.

The last Secret is, “A man wants to be with a woman who encourages him to enjoy being a man.” She can do that by accepting him as he is, understanding why he is the way he is, both as a man and individually, by letting him know he makes her happy, encouraging him to spend time with his guy friends, not mothering him, not nagging, respecting him, being an enthusiastic lover, etc.

The hard part for women is taking control of themselves and choosing to be beautiful. Seems pretty crazy that they so often are ugly, but they mostly don’t know any better. They tend to blame whatever is not right on the man, when they have a whole lot more control than they realize, including not getting involved with a man because he has “potential.”

My goal is to help women be smarter about how they interact with men. Why? So they can be happier and enjoy how great it feels to be cherished by a man who adores her.

From my heart to yours,

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship ishttp://www.alivewithlove.com. the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it in Men Made Easy!.

 

 

How to Get Your Ex Back

 

It’s not uncommon, when a woman who is wanting to get her ex back, for her to purchase my Men Made Easy program, hoping it will help her.  Because any woman who embraces what I teach will find herself changing in many positive ways, there is a chance that she could get him back. That’s because my program teaches women what a man REALLY wants, how to treat him differently than any other woman ever has–including howSHE treated him in the past–and how to get what she wants in such a way that the man actuallyWANTS to give it to her, she will definitely be different than she was prior to their break up.

The tricky part is letting him know how you’ve changed. You can’t just say, “I’ve changed, take me back.” For one thing, men are quick to shut the door to heartache and move on. They do this so they won’t have to feel what’s going on inside of them. They’re also wary that you really have changed.

• Men Made Easy points out all the ways you may have emasculated your man and why that is the worst thing you could have done. If you’ve been doing that, the following technique I’m going to describe could work.

• Men Made Easy shows you the different ways you’ve likely been ‘ugly’ to him in the past, and why that was so destructive to your relationship. If you’ve been doing these things, this technique could work.

• Men Made Easy shows you the many ways you’ve done exactly the opposite to get what you want and how that has driven him away. If you’ve been doing any of these things, this technique could work.

This does not mean he didn’t do things wrong as well. But this is not about blaming him, it’s about letting him know you understand better what happened and how it could have been different.

Even if this technique I’m going to explain doesn’t bring him back, it will be a good thing for you to do. That’s because it will be a cleansing of your spirit so you can move on and find love again.

How To Let Him Know You’ve Changed

Depending on whether or not you have contact, here are some ways you can let him know you’ve changed. If you see each other occasionally, you can show him with your more beautiful energy and by the way you communicate with him. Or, if you’re emailing, you can say it in writing.For these situations, you can let him know the things I recommend below over several meetings or emails.

If you are having no contact, you can write a letter, but not in a way that sounds like you’re trying to get him back, just letting him know how you’ve seen how it could have been and wish him well.

What you want to say, to show him you have, indeed, changed, is the following–but in your own words, of course:

# 1. Tell him you have been doing a lot of soul searching and you now see what you did to damage your relationship.

• Detail the things you did wrong, using what you’ve learned in Men Made Easy.
• How you emasculated him
• How you were ugly
• How you didn’t let him know how important he was
• How you didn’t appreciate the things he did to make you happy ( you can offer details here)

#2. Detail what you now see you should and could have done.

# 3. Tell him you were so caught up in your own world that you lost sight of what an amazing man he is. Then detail all the things you admire and appreciate about him, especially those things you know he admires about himself.

If a letter is your only way to communicate these things, then tell him you’re sorry for what happened, and wish him happiness and love.

Don’t forget that more often than not, it’s over because it should be. We often want an ex back because we’re lonely, we miss having someone around, there’s a gaping hole where he once was that wants to be filled and the feelings of attachment are still strong. It takes wisdom and intuition to know what to do.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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How Men Show Love

I got questions from two women this week, which, on the surface, might appear to require different answers. But the answers are actually the same. One was about how she was upset because her guy didn’t remember the anniversary of their first date and the other asked how she could get her guy to express his love “night and day.”

Regarding the “night and day” thing, I put an update on facebook that night and day would probably drive a woman nuts if she actually got that. I suspect the one who wrote me was a teenager, but it got me to write this article, so that’s a good thing.

So here’s the deal with men. They’re just not wired to be mushy, especially as much as most women would want. The seldom express what they’re feeling, especially the real mushy stuff. We women have a mountain of thoughts and ideas about what we’re feeling, we can put them into words, describe them, add lots of flourishes, and If we explained all our thoughts about the relationship to our man, he would probably start climbing the walls. It makes us feel good when we have mushy thoughts and feelings, so we want and expect him to enjoy that part of being in love as well. But that’s not how a man relates to his woman.

In my years of studying men for my book, Men Made Easy, one thing became very clear. Men show love through action. They like to be our hero, solve problems for us, fix things, protect us, and make us happyhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.in their own ways.

Too often, when women need a man to express love in a certain way, they miss out on all the ways they ARE expressing their love. So notice if he likes to solve problems for you, do things for you, show you a good time going out on dates. If he is attentive, takes you out, calls once in a while, texts, emails, then he is expressing his love.

For you to relax and enjoy your relationship more, rather than stressing over what he’s NOT doing, pay attention to what he is doing. Make a list of all the things he does that makes you feel special, beautiful, sexy, taken care of, cherished, treasured and loved. Men like to DO things, it’s natural and comfortable for them. If you focus on how he makes you feel, day-in day-out, then you’ll start seeing that he does express his love, just not in the ways you want.

If you stay upset because he isn’t remembering special anniversaries or doesn’t tell you in words how he feels, I invite you to do a Relaxation Meditation and ask yourself why you’re upset. And also, ask how you most enjoy receiving love. I suspect it all ties together and leads to something in your childhood. You can download the Relaxation Meditation and use it any time you want to go inside and ask your Inner Wise Woman for advice. That’s just a fancy way to say you’ll talk to your inner wisdom that lies just beneath your consciousness.

There’s so much more you need to understand about men if you are going to negotiate your way to getting what you want from them. I hope you’ll go ahead and get a copy of Men Made Easy so you can start applying the secrets. You’ll be surprised at how quickly they cause men to respond to you in brand new ways.

From my heart to yours,

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Why Do Men Fall – And Stay – In Love?

Men are attracted to beautiful women. We all know that. But what you might not know is that a man who is looking for “The One” needs her to be beautiful in more ways than simply what’s on the outside. Sure, he needs to be attracted to your appearance but what enables him to stay interested is a woman’s inner beauty.

I spent 2 years interviewing men for my book, Men Made Easy, and in every interview I always asked what qualities were most attractive in a woman. Once we got past the jokes about body parts, they said what really keeps their interest is a woman who’s happy, has a positive outlook, is funny (or at least think he’s funny), is confident, poised, feminine, and simply enjoys life.

Maybe you think you already are all those things, but are you a genuinely happy woman? I used to think I was, but my dedication to personal growth has expanded my capacity to be happier than I would have ever thought possible.

Do you have a positive outlook? Not sure? Pay attention to how often you complain or gossip contrasted with how often you find yourself feeling grateful. How often do you feel tired and irritable compared to how often you want to sing and dance? How easily do you laugh and how playful are you?

Are you self-confident? Poised? Are you respectful of others, appreciative, complimentary, kind, and generous? As a woman develops her Feminine Grace, she naturally exudes the qualities that are most attractive to men.  And, in case that word bothers you, feminine simply means you enjoy being a woman.

If you start paying attention to how happy you are and what keeps you from being so, you can begin to create more joy. The more joy you exude, the more attractive you become to men and everyone else around you. You end up beating out the competition. With Men Made Easy you can begin to discover for yourself how much more positive attention you can enjoy from men who previously hadn’t even noticed you.

From my heart to yours,

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How To Get Him To Connect More

First, it’s important to understand what his work means to him. In my book, Men Made Easy,  I have a whole chapter on why a man needs to feel successful and how you can use this knowledge to get more of what you want. But for now, the best way to deal with men is to give them opportunities to solve your problem, which they are hard-wired to want to do, and be your hero, which happens to make them feel successful. It’s all about creating Win/Win Love™.

So, here’s what you do to get him to connect with you more often.

Tell him that, being a woman, you need to connect probably more than he does.

Tell him you really appreciate how hard he works and understand how important his work is to him.

This will help him feel understood, which he needs more than just about anything.

Then, to give him the opportunity to fix your problem, make you happy, and be your hero, ask him for suggestions for how you can get more of your needs to connect met.

Then, let him come up with a solution. He gets to be the problem solver for you and that makes him your hero.

Then be okay with what he suggests because that will tell you clearly how much he’s willing to give. But whatever he offers, let him know how happy he’s made you and how much you appreciate his willingness to give you whatever he’s offered.

See, it’s all about creating Win/Win Love™.

From my heart to yours,

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