Older Women, Younger Men

An older woman wrote to me recently, wanting to know how she could meet a man. This is a topic near and dear to my heart because my man is much younger. And NO, I am not a cougar. I do not like that term, any more than I like other labels. When we label something or someone, we put our own interpretation of what that means. I don’t even like the terms boyfriend or girlfriend for the same reason. But I digress…

Here’s what I told her:

Age is a huge issue because even older men usually want a younger woman. I am 63 and felt invisible to men. But my boyfriend, who is 39 said men did notice, I just wasn’t letting it in. He’s known me for over 2 years and was interested way before I realized it. So it can happen, and man, was I as surprised as anyone.

I have heard that your city is difficult, but women everywhere say where they live is difficult. Part of the problem is there are more women than men in almost every community.

First, it’s important to be okay with the possibility that you will not meet someone. Otherwise, there’s a bit of desperation in your energy, and men can ‘smell’ that a mile away. I had to get to that point and it felt pretty good. I was able to accept that if it happens, great, if not, I have an amazing life.

Then, you need to get out and stay active. Go to places men will be but not the clubs and bars. Take classes, go to lectures, charity events, or pick a sport–maybe bicycling, rowing, skiing–and join a club. Or take ballroom dancing, or salsa. Just stay very busy. And if you’ve read Men Made Easy, work on developing sparkling Feminine Grace. And use the Secrets about men with ALL men. You never know if one might be interested, or he might have a friend or relative who is looking for someone just like you.

I am in the most amazing relationship of my life. In my wildest dreams, I would not have thought a 39-year-old with two young daughters could be the man of my dreams…actually, I never dreamed anyone like him existed. So unless you’re totally turned off by the idea of a younger man, keep that as an option as well. There are a lot of younger men who like older women. Partly because a lot of younger women are such ball-busters, or are too needy. A sharp younger man enjoys the wisdom of an older woman, and the freedom they often have with their body and sexuality.

And definitely open your horizons to include men of other cultures and colors. I’ve always been attracted to black men, but in my community, there aren’t many. But lucky me, I’m living my fantasies, every day. Yummers!

The most important thing to do is get okay with being alone. Then your sense of self-assurance will be much more alluring.

If you want to learn the Secrets about men that EVERY woman really should know, you’ll definitely want to get your hands on Men Made Easy.

And if you want the 3 free ebooks that explain how men can be Cavemen, Dogs, and Princes, all at the same time, download them at KaraOh.com.
From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

How Feminism Harms Women

I got a note from a woman who said she’s a Feminist and not interested in what I teach about how to have a deeply loving relationship with a good man. But she was searching for help in the relationship arena, which tells me it’s not going the way she’d like. Duh! What this kind of woman doesn’t realize is that she’s sacrificing having a good relationship so she can be ‘right.’  That’s because Feminism pits women against men, where the women are trying to be better ‘men’ than the men. That doesn’t work for most men. Unless they’re wimps and enjoy being pussy-whipped.

But let’s talk about something else that is sacrificed by being a Feminist. Your health and well-being. So here’s something that has nothing to do with relationships or men.

What I’ve observed in my many years teaching women, is that a reason so many women are burned out and exhausted is because they’re in their ‘masculine energy’ 24/7. This is totally unnatural. Of course, you do have to be in your masculine energy part of the time. For example, when you’re taking care of a child or a parent, you’re in your masculine energy because you’re care-taking, protecting, ‘giving,’ which is masculine.

When you’re receiving in any way, you’re in your feminine energy. So being in masculine energy is just as natural for a woman as being in feminine energy. But it’s draining to be in it all the time. The workplace is masculine. So you’re required to be in your masculine energy during the day. The problem is, most women don’t realize they should, nor do they know how to, turn off their masculine and step into their feminine.

You see, what you need to realize is that when you’re in your feminine energy you can replenish your batteries, so to speak. So I recommend you be sure and allow yourself some time, specially when you get home from work, to slip into your feminine energy, the same way you might slip into comfy clothes. If you consciously set your masculine energy on a shelf, or put it in a drawer, and then do something that will allow you to give to yourself, a glass of wine, a meditation, dancing in your underwear, you will then be able to nurture yourself in a loving, feminine way.

I also recommend you do this before going on a date, or being with your husband, because men are repelled by a woman who is in masculine energy, basically in competition for ‘who is the better man.’ It’s just the way it is, and trying to get men to be different simply does not work.

If you want to learn more about understanding men, you can download 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.
From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

The Cost of a Less Than Perfect Body

My expertise is understanding men. That means I know what they want, what they’re attracted to for a ‘real’ relationship (not just sexual attraction), what causes them to fall in love, and what makes them want to stay with a woman and commit to her for the long term.

The sad thing is that too many women think their appearance is the primary thing that will get them the results with n]men that they want. Yes, your looks will get his attention, but, as I’ve said many times, it’s who you are that causes him to fall in love and want to share his life with you.

So it makes me crazy to see women obsess about their appearance, instead of focusing on developing Feminine Grace. Our culture has always made appearance too important, but today, with the Photoshopping of every image women see, it’s turned everything on it’s head.

Here’s a fascinating video that shows exactly how images are manipulated and how unattainable the quest to look as good is. Women can’t measure up, and men won’t find a ‘perfect’ woman.

My biggest concern is that because pretty much EVERY image is Photoshopped, everyone is getting a skewed idea of what beauty is.

Beauty is not perfection. True beauty is the light that emanates from a truly happy woman. It’s the glow that comes from being self-assured, happy, kind and appreciative.

How to do you counter the damage that is being done by these false images? The best way is to focus on developing yourself as a person, from the inside out. Continue to feed your mind, your spirit and your soul. Develop your ability to be happy and to love and be loved. And when you see a photo and think, “Gosh, I wish I could look like that,” remind yourself that NO ONE looks like that.

To begin to discover what men really want, you can get three free ebooks that will help you understand why all men are Cavemen, Dogs, and Princes. Simply go to KaraOh.com and register to my newsletter list. You can unsubscribe at any time.

If you’re ready to begin developing your Feminine Grace™, you can get my best-selling book, Men Made Easy, and learn the 12 Secrets about men that every woman should know. That is, if you want to have a truly satisfying relationship.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

What is Feminine Grace?

I introduced the concept of Feminine Grace™ ten years ago in the first edition of Men Made Easy. It’s the foundation by which a woman should live her life, if she wants to be her happiest, with an immeasurable capacity to give and receive love.

I’m working on finishing the book so many woman are wanting, titled “Feminine Grace, a Step-by-Step Guide To a Brand New You.” But in the meantime, I get a lot of questions about what Feminine Grace™ is. So here is a description of the thing that I’ve found has led me to live the most amazing life, shared with the most lovely, funny, sexy, smart and kind man I’ve ever known.

An excerpt from Men Made Easy:

Feminine Grace™ is when a woman is truly happy being a woman. She is comfortable with her femininity without being overtly sexual. Feminine Grace is coming into rapport with being a woman and loving it in every way.

For example, a corporate woman can attempt to compete with men and try to be equal, which is impossible. An apple and an orange, while still fruit, will never be the same. Or she can be fully a woman, confident in her own expertise and knowledge, interacting with others as a woman, not an approximation of a man.

That kind of woman is respected by her peers, male and female, not resented or looked down on. She dresses as a woman, not as a man, but, understanding and respecting men, she’s careful not to be sexual in her attire. Men say they cannot work with a woman who dresses sexy and not think about sex. It’s a matter of decorum, taste, style, and self-respect, mixed with a desire to let her beauty show through.

With Feminine Grace™:

1. You don’t need a man to feel complete, but you’re happy to admit if you want one.
2. You’re empowered by being a woman, never using it as an excuse.
3. You’re comfortable being you and like who you are.
4. You enjoy expressing your uniqueness in how you look, not following trends.
5. You’re eager to learn, grow, and improve yourself.
6. You express yourself with knowledgeable confidence.
7. You know who you are and you’re proud of it.
8. You like your body and how you look, and you take care of yourself.
9. You take responsibility for your life, not blaming others for your circumstances.
10. You’re happy from within, not needing others to make you happy.
11. You like people and people like you.
12. You genuinely like and appreciate men.

Some well-known modern icons of Feminine Grace™ are Tova Borgnine, Sophia Loren, Maya Angelou, and Susan Sarandon. Some who continue to leave their mark on the world, even after their death, are Katherine Hepburn, Audrey Hepburn, Princess Diana, and Grace Kelly.

Women who embody Feminine Grace™ are comfortable with themselves. They enjoy their individuality, without the need for competition. They genuinely like men. Their sexuality flows freely and effortlessly.

What they do, they do with confidence and grace. Men and women like and respect them, and their beauty glows from within. These women are beautiful, but not because they’re fashion queens. They’re beautiful because they know who they are and they like themselves.

They do their creative best to look and be their best every day in every way, working with their natural assets as well as learned behaviors to make themselves into what they are, exuding grace and charm and sensuality without being overly sexual.

You’ll then accomplish your dreams because you believe in yourself, and do so with creativity, sensuality, love, and happiness in your heart.

And to discover if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, download 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

5 Guaranteed Ways To Turn a Man OFF!

There are some really simple ways to get a man’s attention and cause  him to want to get to know you. But I thought it would be fun, and maybe  drive the point home in a more powerful way, to tell you how you can  turn men off, guaranteed. Clearly, this is all tongue-in-cheek, but it’s  still the truth.

5 Ways To Turn Men Off

1) Slouch. One of the quickest, easiest ways to look  completely unattractive, to actually be repellent, is to slouch. When  you stand up straight, with good posture, the message you are broadcasting is, “I’m confident, comfortable  with who I am, and I’m worth getting to know.”

When you slouch you’re  saying, “I’m not worthy of your notice, I’m insecure, ignore me, treat  me as a second-class citizen.” What man will be interested in that?  Plus, you send great energy when you stand tall and as an added bonus,  your breasts look much more attractive.

2) Smoke. If you really want to turn men off big-time, light a  cigarette. When you do so you advertise that you’re a low-class woman;  your hair, clothes, and breath stink; you taste horrible when  kissed; you have no respect for your body or your health or your future  appearance because you are guarantee to be very wrinkled, and wrinkled  before your time. I don’t think I need to say more.

Being a non-smoker  will keep the door open to a classy, quality man. Smoking will only attract another smoker.

3) Get drunk. This will advertise very nicely that you lack  self-control, that you are blind to how embarrassing you are, how risky  it will be that you will throw up, that you will most likely sleep with a  man too easily. Ah yes, the lists goes on. This is especially effective  on a first date with a quality man. Stick to one drink when you’re  meeting a man and you’ll be safe from this turn off.

4) Swear. If you are looking for a man who doesn’t need to  respect his woman, then swearing will certainly turn the classy, quality  men off and get you the attention of crass, disrespectful, tacky men.  In my opinion, a woman should never swear in front of someone she doesn’t know,  or doesn’t know very well, especially if she wants to attract his attention.

Later, after you’ve gotten to know him, swearing in the right situation, to make a point, is okay in my book. But don’t ever be a potty mouth.

5) Let your body go to pot. Most men, even those who are way  out of shape want a woman who appears healthy.

Not skinny, just healthy.

You don’t need to be a size 2. You can be a size 12 and be healthy. So  if you want to turn men off, gain weight, don’t exercise, and to add a  guarantee, ignore your hair, make-up, clothes and generally show that  you have no respect for your body or your appearance. That’ll pretty much do it.

If you do any of these things, just know that you are narrowing the  field. You need all the help you can get so doing any of the above makes  it more and more difficult to find a good man with whom to share your life.

If you want to learn how to determine if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince…or all three, download three free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Are You Attractive To Men, Or Repellent?

Chelsea Kaplan wrote an article titled “Are You The Last One Single?” One of her pieces of advice attempted to answer the question: How can single women project confidence when inside, they’re panicking? She recommends that a woman “project a radiantly positive persona, date  with dignity, and transform any desperation sensations into high  desirability–that’s how to reign in the Panic.”

From personal experience, this is not something you just do. Using my Love Triangle, it first requires you have clear Awareness (the 1st side of the triangle) of what you’re doing and feeling. Once you become aware, you can then shift your Intention (the second side of the triangle) so that you have more choice in how you are responding inside.

An example would be the following:

You’re with a man you find  attractive. This adds pressure because you want to be sure he likes you.  You begin to feel the inner panic that he might not be interested in  you, which causes you to slip into a state of insecurity. If you are not  aware that this is going on, you will most likely not be attractive to  him because men like women who are confident, at ease with themselves,  and comfortable to be with.

But once you notice you’re beginning to feel the discomfort of insecurity, you have moved into a state of awareness. That’s when you can do something about it, which is to shift your intention.  To do that you could tell yourself to relax and breathe. Or you could  shift your concern for yourself over to him and that he might be feeling  insecure as well. Or you could imagine loving energy going from your  heart to his.

This will cause a shift in your Energy (the 3rd side of the Love Triangle). When you are in a state of insecurity, what Kaplan calls Panic, your energy is quite unattractive to men, even repellent. So with any shift in Awareness you allow yourself the option of shifting your Intention, which can then cause your Energy to go from repellent to attractivehttp://www.alivewithlove.com. so much so, that the man you’re  with could very well be so drawn to you that you become irresistible.

When you can do the above, dating becomes fun. That’s when you have  choices, that’s when you feel fully empowered as the magnificent woman  you’re capable of being. My course, From Flirting To Forever teaches women how to shift their energy from ” repellent panic” to “attractive Feminine Grace.”

If you want to know if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, be sure and download my 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

Could This Be Why You’re Single?

I was talking to a 37 year old man today – I’ll call him Jake – about  his recent experiences with women. He related a conversation he had on  the phone with a woman he hadn’t even met yet. She told him she had 63  things on her list that she was looking for in a man. She’d recently met  one who had 61 items on her list but it didn’t work out. Yikes!

Then, she sent Jake an email that said she was feeling fat. THEY HAVEN’T EVEN MET YET!!! Is this woman crazy?

He said all the women he’s met have been bossy and controlling.  They’re angry, bitter, and not even 40 yet. He’s generally dated women  under 30. He said women in their 20′s are still able and interested in  learning and improving themselves. He thought he wanted to start looking  for a woman who is older, has a career, and more mature. But now he’s  starting to re-think that idea. I know this man, he’s a great guy, kind,  loving, generous, fun, handsome, charismatic, and patient. But he’s  smart enough to know when a woman is going to be high maintenance, who  enjoys beating him up.

When I first met Chris, my ex-fiance’ and still good friend, he  marveled that I didn’t beat him up and wasn’t angry and bitter, as he  said most women over 40 seemed to be. He just couldn’t get over it.

Ladies, if you’re reading this, can you see yourself in this young  man’s description of today’s “confident, capable, take-no-prisoners”  modern woman? There’s a reason why you’re single. It’s not that there  are no good men left. It’s that the good ones don’t want to go out with  an angry woman.

My calling in life is to teach women how to get back to enjoying  being a woman and being with a man. What’s going on today is scary. It  makes me sad that so many women and men are wanting to be in a relationship, but they don’t have a clue why it’s not working for them.

Any woman who is ready to quit wasting her time on the dating merry-go-round needs to understand the basic foundation of dating smart. So I wrote  Date Smart and Win His Heart, which is the workbook for Avoid The Bad  Boys. Get it now, before you go out on your next date.

There are plenty of good men out there but you’ve got to know how to  attract them. They’re running scared because most women they meet are  angry and don’t seem to even like men. If you can learn the art of Feminine Grace,  you’ll be shocked how men will stand in line for the chance to get to  know you. It’s not that difficult but you need to be willing to make the  changes that will not only make you more attractive but also make you  happier.

To learn all my Secrets about men, and how to use them go to MenMadeEasy.com.

And to discover if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, download 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

Are You a High Maintenance Woman?

Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with high maintenance women. You’ve heard of High Maintenance women but do you know what that means? Hopefully, after I explain this sad malady, you’ll cleanse any HM behavior you might have going.

First, a high maintenance woman needs things to be just right.  She extremely particular what restaurant, or type of restaurant, she needs to be taken to. She’s extremely particular what table she needs to sit at. She’s extremely particular how she needs her food to be prepared. She’s extremely particular about how she needs her date to dress. She’s extremely particular about where she needs to go on a vacation. Okay… you get the point. There are two words here that you should have picked up on. One is “extremely” and the other is “needs.”

Second, with all those needs, she is going to point out when things aren’t right. Most men won’t go on a second date with this kind of woman because she’s unpleasant to be around. But some women keep this behavior under tight wraps at first, trying to put her best stiletto forward. But when her needs are this extreme, they squish out eventually.

That’s when the guy starts heading for the door. It’s pretty obvious to spot this kind of woman and even more obvious why a man would not want to get involved with her. Even her women friends can handle only so much of her self-centered behavior.

But what about the Stealth High Maintenance woman? This kind of woman sneaks up on a man, he doesn’t realize that’s what he’s got. All he knows is that he doesn’t feel good being around her. So how to you define a SHM woman? She lets her date know in subtle ways that he’s disappointing her. She sighs when she says, “Sure, that restaurant will be just dine.” But he can tell that he’s blowing it, he just doesn’t quite know why.

The SHM woman doesn’t get second or for sure, third dates very often. She doesn’t understand why and neither does he. What’s going on is she doesn’t know the most powerful strategy for getting and keeping a man’s interest.

Do you want to know what that strategy is? Be the reason he feels good, the reason his mood is lighter, the reason he’s happy he’s a man. You have the power to do that.

To learn all my Secrets about men, and how to use them go to MenMadeEasy.com.

And to discover if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, download 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

This Can Ruin Sex

There’s nothing that compares to great sex. It comes with confidence, comfort with our partner and a willingness to be both vulnerable and spontaneous.

But if you think sex should be a certain way, it’s very difficult to have great sex. An idea that will definitely keep you from having enjoyable sex is thinking you aren’t experienced enough. Experience is a good thing, but not essential to enjoying being sexual with someone.

If your partner is messing up the fun in the bedroom because they’re concerned they aren’t as experienced as you are, here’s an idea. Tell them that you, in a certain way, are just as  inexperienced, in that you two are just getting to know each other.

When  people care about each other, there’s a pressure to  please. When a man is good at ‘performing’ because he’s been with a lot  of women, and the next woman is just one more woman to impress, he has  no trouble. But the moment he cares, those little insecurities can slip in  and even the most confident man can find himself having difficulty  either with desire or ability to perform.

In my  previous relationship, he always needed me to be in the ‘right space’  emotionally and spiritually for him to become aroused. I tried to tell  him that sex could be all over the map. Sometimes raw and nasty,  sometimes sweet, sometimes deeply loving, sometimes profoundly  spiritual. But for me, the most important thing was to connect  sexually, because that’s how I bond.

When I told him I no longer  wanted to be a romantic couple, we decided to have a session with our  two therapists (mine was recommend by his) where I would give the ring  back to him. One of the things I said, in explaining why our  relationship was no longer working for me, was what I said above about  sex, and finished up with, “Sometimes you just want to fuck.” His  therapist sat up and said, “See, Thomas, that’s what I’ve been trying to  tell you.” So his therapist had apparently been trying to get him to see  my point as well.

When you let go of how it should be, how experienced or knowledgeable you need to be, you can begin to develop a joyful, sensuous, fulfilling sexual relationship.

Great sex needs to be allowed the freedom to unfold in its own way. Sometimes it can be raw  and nasty, some time it’s quick-gotta-have-you-now,  sometimes sweet and loving, sometimes passionate and very sensuous. If you have no expectations–even though you might begin with an  idea of how it will go–then just  allow it to go where it wants to, you’ll have a great physical relationship. That’s when magic  happens. Magic NEVER happens when we TRY to make it happen.

If both of you can let go of expectations and insecurities you’ll develop the perfect sexual relationship to match you both. Make it a  child-like exploration of discovery and it will be great. A wonderful way to explore your sexual union is to listen to Boring In Bed together–my program on better sex. Listening together, then talking about–and practicing–what you’re learning, will help break down the walls or barriers that have kept you from relaxing and simply enjoying each other.

I invite you to download my three free ebooks so you can determine if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Three Ways To Bring Back the “In Love Sparkles”

If you’ve been together for a while, those “in love sparkles” can disappear. Sometimes they just ebb and flow, coming and going mysteriously.

When they’re gone, things just don’t feel as good as they used to.

Often, we’re not very aware of why things don’t feel quite right, you wonder if your relationship is over, and hope that somehow, the love will return.

We don’t know why it went away and we don’t know why it comes back.

But what if you could help keep the feelings of being ‘in love’ alive? Quite often a man or woman contacts me, worried because their  partner has announced they’re no longer ‘in love.’

Too often it’s assumed this means the relationship or marriage is over, and often it is, because they’ve let things go too far.

But if they had known what they could have done along the way to keep the ‘in love sparkles’ alive, they very well might not have gotten to the point of no return.

So, here are three things that can help a couple bring back the ‘in love sparkles:’

1. Start having fun again.
2. Start having more sex by kissing for 10 second at least once a day.
3. Speak up, in a loving way, instead of allowing resentment to build up.

1 – Start Having Fun Again

Remember when you first fell in love? Weren’t you having fun doing pretty much anything? And didn’t you make a point to create activities and time together so you could have fun together? Didn’t you laugh and do silly things because you felt so youthful?

Well, think back; what did you do then that you can plan now? Make things happen because they’re aren’t going to happen on their own.

2 – Share 10 Second Kisses

You can’t get aroused if you allow a kiss to go at least ten seconds. If you kiss for ten seconds as you part in the morning, you’ll both be thinking about each other in new and spicy ways.

If you share ten second kisses when you meet at the end of the day, you might end up in the bedroom for a spontaneous romp. And if you kiss for ten seconds when you’re in bed, it’s amazing how often you will no longer be too tired to have sex.

3 – Speak Up and Avoid Resentment, the Love Killer

This is a bit tricky if you’ve both been holding back and allowing resentment to build up, maybe over many years. In my Marriage Makeover Manual there are three Communication Techniques that I teach so couples can safely talk about the little and sometimes big things that have been swept under the rug.

The biggest problem with resentment is it causes us to begin to develop loathing toward our partner, and who wants to be touched by someone you loath?

That’s why I call resentment the killer of love. And the strange thing is, we do it to ourselves by not speaking up when they do or say things that usually start out as small irritations.

If you want to know how to talk to your husband or significant other about what’s been bothering you, I’ll post an article on how to do that in my next newsletter. Be sure to register for it here. You will find it on the right side of the blog where it says “3 Free eBooks”.  It is free and fun! Andhttp://www.alivewithlove.comhttp://www.alivewithlove.com you get 3 terrific books!

 

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Why Didn’t He Want Another Date?

 

Have you ever been interested in, or worse, in love with a man and he leaves for no apparent reason? Maybe it’s because you’re a High Maintenance woman and don’t realize it.

Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with high maintenance  women. Let me explain why it’s one of the worst things you can do if you want a man to fall in love with you and STAY in love.

You’ve heard of high maintenance women but do you know what that  means? Hopefully, after I explain this sad malady, you’ll cleanse any  HM behavior you might be doing without realizing it so you no longer scare men off.

A high maintenance woman needs everything to be just right.  For example, she’s  extremely particular what restaurant she needs  to be taken to, then what table she needs to sit  at and needs her food prepared just so.

With all those needs, she’s going to point out when things  aren’t right. Most men won’t go on a second date with this kind of woman  because it doesn’t feel good to be around her. NOTE: Bottom line, men want to be with a woman who makes him feel good. But some women keep this  behavior under tight wraps at first, trying to put their best stiletto  forward. But when her needs are this extreme, they squish out eventually, and often in some pretty ugly ways.

That’s when the guy starts heading for the door. It’s pretty obvious  to spot this kind of woman and even more obvious why a man would not  want to get involved with her. Even her women friends can handle only so  much of her self-centered behavior.

But what about the Stealth High Maintenance woman? This kind of woman  sneaks up on a man, so he doesn’t realize what he’s getting himself into. All he  knows is that he doesn’t feel good to be around her.

So how do you  define a SHM woman? She lets her date know in subtle ways that he’s  disappointing her. She sighs when she says, “Sure, that restaurant will  be just fine.” But he can tell that he’s blowing it, he just doesn’t  quite know why. And for a while, he’ll try hard to please her. And the more he’s attracted to her, the harder and longer he’ll try.

But eventually, she wears away at his sense of masculinity. He realizes that she’s a bottomless pit and will never be happy. One of the Secrets about men that I reveal in Men Made Easy is, “If you’re not happy, he’s a failure.” Men hate to fail. I’ve asked many men over the years why they left their wife or girlfriend and what they say, with body language that shows their sense of failure, “I couldn’t make her happy.” Another important thing I teach in this book is the concept of Feminine Grace. A high maintenance woman cannot be gracious because she’s too self-centered.

A high maintenance woman doesn’t get second, or for sure, third dates very often.  She doesn’t understand why and neither does he. What’s going on is she’s unaware of the most powerful strategy for getting and keeping a man’s  interest.

Do you want to know what that strategy is? Be the reason he feels  good, the reason his mood is lighter, the reason he’s happy he’s a man.  You have the power to do that. Men Made Easy can teach you how.

If you want to find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, you can download three free ebooks atKaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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How to Handle Seeing Your Ex

What do you do to keep your composure when you know you’re going to an event where you will run into your ex? I get this question a lot and here’s what I’d do if I was in the same situation.

Imagine he’s got on some stupid outfit, like a clown suit, or a stuffed animal, or something else that you think is silly. I would recommend you do a Relaxation Meditation and while in a deeply relaxed state, get the image clear in your mind so it tickles you. Make it as real as possible

Then, at the event, any time you notice yourself becoming self-conscious, upset or not yourself, see that image of him in your mind and you’ll immediately shift back to being happy and fun.

You can download the Relaxation Meditation at Feminine Grace.com

How do you know if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three? Download my 3 free ebooks and find out at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

5 Ways To Instantly Improve Your Relationship

Women are the leaders in the relationship. Men know it better than women do. A woman can change the tone and energy more easily then they realize… and it’s fun to watch a man respond.

The quickest way to shift the energy in the moment–and as the primary way you interact with each other–is to remember that beneath the surface, down in his and your hearts, is a desire to be loved, accepted and appreciated.

If you open your heart for a moment, let go of the hurt and resentment, and imagine loving energy being exchanged between you, you will instantly shatter any negative feelings. That’s because it’s not possible to hold love in your heart at the same time you’re feeling anything negative. If you choose not to do this, I would invite you to look at why. That would be a good topic for coaching.

Here are 5 fun and easy ways to instantly improve your relationship:

1) Instead of complaining, whining, or raising your voice, speak softly with clear, concise, respectful, gracious, beautiful and loving language.

How do you do that? Before you “react” stop for however long you need in order to calm yourself. Walk away, explaining that you need to collect your thoughts before continuing. Remind yourself that you love each other, open your heart to his, and allow those negative feelings to dissipate.

Next, plan what you want to say. Sometimes I even write down what I need to communicate so I remember what I need to say. Then, when it’s time to talk about it, I ask that I be allowed to finish before he speaks. You’ll be surprised how well this works. He’ll stay open to what you need to say, you’ll be heard, and if you continue throughout the conversation as two people who love each other your relationship will begin to blossom.

And don’t start out with, “We need to talk.” That strikes fear into the heart of every man. Instead, ask, “I need your help with something. Do you have time for me to share?” Big difference because men like to help solve problems for the woman they love.

• The benefit to you? You will get his attention, his cooperation, and his respect.
• Why does it work? Men need clear, concise, unemotional language to be able to hear you. Otherwise, they shut you out completely. And we all know how good they can be at doing that.

2) Look for ways he makes you happy and let him know… regularly. Some examples might be: “It makes me happy that you like solving problems for me,” or, “You make me feel wonderful when you tell me you love me,” or, “It makes me happy that you help with the kids…and they love it.” One of the chapters in my book, Men Made Easy is titled: “Why Men Are Driven To Make Women Happy.” Letting him know you’re happy makes him feel successful. He needs that and you can give it to him.

• The benefit to you? He’ll start looking for more ways to make you happy.
• Why does it work? If you’re not happy he feels like a failure and men hate to fail.

3) Appreciate him often, especially for his masculine qualities and those things you know he likes about himself, things he’s proud of.

Examples could be: “I really appreciate what a nice home you’ve been able to give us. I don’t think I tell you enough,” or, “I love how strong you are. I like watching you work,” or, “The way you make love to me is so perfect, mmmmmm.”

• The benefit to you? He’ll fall in love each time you do it and you’ll make him feel like a hero. (The last secret in Men Made Easy is “A man wants to be with a woman who makes him feel like a man.”)
• Why does it work? Men compete with other men and need to measure up. You can validate his worth as a man.

4) Give him romantic kisses instead of pecks. Long hello kisses tell him you’re glad to see him, long good-bye kisses tell him you can’t wait until he returns, long thank-you kisses tell him you really appreciate what he did for you, and “hey you, kiss me” kisses tell him you want him.

• The benefit to you? He’ll feel more connected to you and look forward to being with you.
• Why does it work? Physical connection is the only way most men know how to be intimate and physical intimacy is what makes your relationship special from all other relationships.

5) Flirt with him. Be playful, tease him, say slightly naughty things once in a while, and gaze into his eyes with a “come here, big boy” twinkle.

Why do we think we can quit doing the things we did when we were first falling in love? The relationships that endure are those where the couple stays “in love” and have fun together. That means flirting, being playful, being sexy and sensual, and remembering why we fell in love in the first place.

• The benefit to you? You’ll both feel younger, friskier, and more in love and you won’t end up in divorce court.
• Why does it work? Flirting is a kind of play and playfulness helps cement your bond.

If you do all these things on a regular basis, you can repair a lot of damage and bring back the in-love sparkles. You can look at this as work or you can look it as fun. It’s all in your desire and your attitude. Remember, you’re the engine that runs the relationship.

To learn all my Secrets about men, and how to use them go to MenMadeEasy.com.

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From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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3 Steps For Getting Through Hard Times

 

We all go through difficulties now and then. The tricky part is not getting stuck thinking it will not improve.

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Your Positive Attitude Keeps Him Coming Back For More

I am a huge proponent of feeling all of your  emotions, fully and completely. That’s one of the many joys of being  human and female. BUT, there is an overarching emotion that runs your life. Are you positive or negative? Do you notice what’s good in your life, or do you put your emphasis on what’s not working?

How well your life works has to do with where you put your focus. This article came out of a conversation about  blamers and people whose habitual perspective is to see the world  through the filter of “The Cup Is Half Empty,” or “Look At What’s Wrong  With the World,” or “You Know What’s Really Sad?”, etc.

My personal  preference is to see “The Cup Is Overflowing.” And, in my life, that’s  exactly what I get. Not that icky things don’t happen. But even when  they do, I embrace them because that means I will learn a lesson, and  come out the other end a happier, wiser woman with even greater capacity  to love and be loved. I am living proof that this philosophy works.

Another piece of my personal philosophy is, “Everything that’s happening  is supposed to be happening, or it wouldn’t be happening.” It’s  my way  of accepting what is so I don’t get tossed around by life. We ALL make  choices every moment of every day. Our perspective is one of those many  choices and it will absolutely color EVERYTHING we see and interpret.

If you want to start experiencing more love in your life, you absolutely need to learn to use my 12 Secrets about men. You can order this essential relationship enhancing program at MenMadeEasy.com.

And if you want to find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, you can order 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Never Diminish Yourself For Any Man

 

I was just watching an older woman (at least 75) and her husband. She was enthusiastically pointing at something, wanting to share with her husband. When he ignored her, she turned to follow him, her head down, obviously feeling bad for not being acknowledged. Watching her brought tears to my eyes.

She’s from an era where this is the norm, not the exception. It points to one of the primary reasons women enjoy each other’s company over men. We all want 3 things: To be loved; to be appreciated; to be seen and accepted for who we are. That old traditional way that men and women have coupled leaves little room for any of those.

If one is not interested in truly seeing the other, especially if the other is perceived as silly or inconsequential, love cannot exist. What holds that kind of couple together is companionship, security and simple habit.

Don’t let this happen to you. No man and no relationship is worth allowing your spirit to be diminished in any way. It’s not easy, but we need to speak up for ourselves, to tell our partner when we are being hurt, rejected or insulted. You know how it feels when you allow those things to slip by, trying your best to not to feel hurt. But it does hurt and each time we let it go, we send the message that it’s okay to be treated disrespectfully. When that happens, we lose respect for ourselves and our partner loses respect for us.

Whatever feelings of attraction brought you together dies a little each time we do not stand up for ourselves. Don’t allow anything less than what you feel you deserve. It’s up to you to determine what you deserve. Life is too short and too precious to live that way. Do everything in your power to reveal your true self so your light can shine bright. It’s the number one way to honor yourself and God. That’s true Feminine Grace. To learn what Feminine Grace is, and how to use it to expand your happiness, you’ll want to discover the Secrets about men revealed in Men Made Easy. It’s the key to a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship.

And find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three at KaraOh.com

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Should He Tell You What He’s Doing?

A woman wrote recently to ask my advice about what to say to her guy about his not telling her what he was going to be doing. Her concern was not wanting to wait for him. I’m afraid I gave her more than she bargained for.

My advice: If you don’t have a date set, with a time, say nothing. He is a free individual and can do anything he wants. He shouldn’t have to tell you where he is and what he’s doing. You either trust him or you don’t. If you don’t it’s either because you have trust issues, or he’s untrustworthy. If you have trust issues, you need to work on those before you’re in a relationship. If he’s untrustworthy, you should not be with him.

I hope that all makes sense. One of the reasons men leave the women they are dating is they lose their freedom. Men shouldn’t have to lose their freedom. Watch this video to hear my wise friend discuss this topic: What Does Commitment Mean To a Man.

And did you see my comedy show? I make a joke about women wanting to get a man to “behave.” If you are offended by the “F” word, don’t watch it!: How To Get a Man To Behave.

I hope this advice helps. The bottom line is, if you have to work to get him to behave, then there’s a problem. Women generally try to get men to behave, and men want their freedom. That’s why it’s so important to develop Feminine Grace because a big part of it is looking in the mirror and looking at our behavior, our responses and reactions to people and situations.

Either a man is enhancing our lives, or they’re not. If they’re not, we need to look at why we think they’re not. Are we being reasonable and respectful of his need to be his own person, or is he truly being disrespectful.

If he’s being disrespectful, he might not realize it. That’s when we can say something like this, “You probably didn’t mean it, but when you did (or said) http://www.alivewithlove.com. it made me feel http://www.alivewithlove.comhttp://www.alivewithlove.com I just wanted to let you know.” Then see how he responds. If he apologizes and says that’s not what I meant, then you can have a calm UNEMOTIONAL discussion about how you can find balance with your need to control him, and his need for freedom.

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

The Key To His Heart and Your Happiness

 

The Feminine Grace is the foundation of everything I teach. It is what causes a woman to be truly happy. It’s actually the key to enjoying more fully every aspect of your life.

We think we’re our own person, able to choose how we live our lives. But a lot of how and why we make the choices we do has to do with our culture. The culture of our family is the strongest influence because it’s our whole world during those first formative years. But a lot of how the culture of a family is created has to do with conforming to what is expected, what helps us fit in and what is considered proper behavior.

Lots of what makes up our culture is good and helps us be responsible, productive and self-sufficient. But one thing I’ve been able to watch take shape is how the Feminist Movement has impacted our culture. I was in my 20’s when it began. Females born at that time now know nothing else. It did some good in our society but it is, in my opinion, the primary reason people have such difficulty creating and sustaining satisfying and fulfilling relationships.

Women have been taught they don’t need men. And to back this up, men tell me all the time, “Why do women even want us around?” As I explain in my book, Men Made Easy, more than just about anything, a man needs to feel needed.

When a woman is fully connected to, and able to celebrate her femininity and her womanness, she can enjoy needing a man without feeling diminished in any way. The cornerstone of all I teach is Feminine Grace. In that state a woman can discover her magnificence, her true source of beauty and her joy. When a woman is able to dance with her glorious woman energy, fully and freely, she becomes the kind of woman a man will treasure.

What I teach is how to cause a man to fall madly in love with you (even a love that has gone dormant) and worship the ground you walk on because he feels utterly grateful that you are his woman. There is no room for a wimpy woman in this scenario. The only way a woman can get this is when she discovers that Feminine Grace is her true power base. Some woman know it naturally but most do not. I’m living proof that it can be learned.

To learn about Feminine Grace, get Men Made Easy and discover how wonderful it feels. And if you want to find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, sign up to receive my 3 FREE ebooks here.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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There Was Chemistry. What Happened?

A woman wrote to me explaining that she’d been on a few dates and thought it was going great. Fun conversations, good time, kissing and a bit of petting, but no sex yet. She definitely felt strong chemistry. Then, wham, he wrote and said he wasn’t that attracted to her.

My advice:

I know it feels awful. But the other side of the hurt is, “Thank goodness you didn’t get more deeply involved.” If he isn’t attracted enough, or just wanted sex, then it’s good that he showed his true colors early on. But the fact that you attracted him should tell you that your energy is attractive. That always feels great. Focus on the fact that this was just a stepping stone to the right man.

Get out some of your favorite music and dance. You’ll for sure feel better!

If you want to learn the Secrets about men that will help you attract a great guy, check out Men Made Easyright now. You need to know what’s going on in that head of his.

And if you want to figure out if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, you’ll want to get my three free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

 

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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How Do You Know When He’s “The One?”

I got an email from a young woman who is twenty-one. She was dumped by a guy she she thought was “The One.” She asked how you can know if a guy is “The One.”Here’s what I told her: I think they all need to feel like “The One” so we can give our hearts over completely. That’s when we can feel deeply and then learn whatever lessons that person brings to our lives.

With each person, we grow and learn more and more about ourselves, about what we want, and how to communicate. Eventually, we grow into the person who can attract the person who will be mature enough to create a lasting relationship.

If you want to know what to do when you meet “The One,” you definitely need to know my Secrets about men. Learn about Men Made Easy right here.

And if you want to know if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, go to KaraOh.com and register to download my three free ebooks.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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7 Ways To Avoid Getting Hurt

I was at a conference of academics and I was talking to a woman about what I do. She told me about a very smart woman who teaches finance, very accomplished, many awards and lots of respect from her peers. But, she said, this very smart women just turns stupid when it comes to men.

Why do we do that?

I think it’s because most of what we know comes to us from outside influences; like fairy tales, love-at-first-site-happily-ever-after-with-no-problems-EVER movies and novels, lame advice from friends, stupid, and inane articles in most women’s magazines. and no tools to know how to do it any different.

So here are 7 ways to avoid getting hurt:

• Don’t take it personallyhttp://www.alivewithlove.comhttp://www.alivewithlove.com any of it
• Don’t get physical too soonhttp://www.alivewithlove.com. it muddles the brain
• Don’t lose yourself, stay centered, breathe deeply
• Don’t try to guess “what did he mean when he did (said) that”
• Enjoy each date, then go about doing your life well
• If he calls, finehttp://www.alivewithlove.com. if not, go about your life, refer to #1
• Don’t get emotionally attached until he does

Easier said than done, but if you look at this list on a regular basis, maybe you’ll keep your wits about you and enjoy dating a whole lot more. If you really want to date smart, I have several programs that will help you attract a terrific man and get him to fall in love with you because you’re like no other woman he’s met. And learn to know if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three by downloading my three free ebooks here.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

How To Stop Worrying About Your Relationship

Do you ever worry that he’ll hurt you like your last boyfriend or husband? Or that he’ll leave? Or you’re jealous for no reason?

When you feel like you have no control over your fearful or negative thoughts, it’s easy for them to start controlling you. And when that happens, you’ll usually sabotage your relationship.

You may try to stop thinking of those things that pop in your head, but it doesn’t work that way. Instead, you need to replace them with a a different thought.

To do this, do a Relaxation Meditation, which you can download here. When you get completely relaxed, imagine how good it feels to be loved by him. Imagine it so clearly that you feel those same feelings in your body, as if you were in his presence and he just did something very loving. Lock these feelings into your body as an anchor of how you think of him.

Then, when you have those thoughts or feelings of fear, remind yourself of this anchor and allow those nice feelings of being loved settle into your body. It will take some effort, but eventually, the new anchored feelings will be what will come to you when you think about him or are in his presence. This is a wonderful tool for any time you wish to change your habits of thinking.

And find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog a Princehttp://www.alivewithlove.com.or all three right here.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Feminine Grace

This video was posted by my friend, Scott Clark, of RocketRadio in Enid, Oklahoma, near Tulsa, my old high school stomping ground. This song and the way they’ve done the video is the perfect antithesis of Feminine Grace. If you don’t know what Feminine Grace is, in a nutshell, it’s about BEING (not just looking) beautiful. If you’re BEING ugly, your man will stop loving you. He may not leave, but his heart will freeze over.

Enjoy!

Pay attention to how you treat everyone, not just your husband or boyfriend. If you’re BEING ugly, it’s pretty certain he’s repulsed.

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From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it.  Click Here.

What I’ve Learned

I’ve learned:
That the best classroom in the world
is at the feet of an elderly person.

I’ve learned:
That when you’re in love, it shows.

I’ve learned:
That just one person saying to me,
“You’ve made my day!” makes my day.

I’ve learned:
That having a child fall asleep in your
arms is one of the most peaceful
feelings in the world.

I’ve learned:
That being kind is more important
than being right.

I’ve learned:
That you should never say “no”
to a gift from a child.

I’ve learned:
That I can always pray for someone
when I don’t have the strength to help
him in some other way.

I’ve learned:
That no matter how serious your life
requires you to be, everyone needs
a friend to act goofy with.

I’ve learned:
That sometimes all a person
needs is a hand to hold and
a heart to understand.

I’ve learned:
That simple walks with my father
around the block on summer nights
when I was a child did wonders
for me as an adult.

I’ve learned:
That life is like a roll of toilet paper.
The closer it gets to the end, the
faster it goes.

I’ve learned:
That we should be glad God doesn’t
give us everything we ask for.

I’ve learned:
That money doesn’t buy class.

I’ve learned:
That it’s those small daily happenings
that make life so spectacular.

I’ve learned:
That under everyone’s hard shell is
someone who wants to be appreciated
and loved.

I’ve learned:
That the Lord didn’t do it all in one day.
What makes me think I can?

I’ve learned:
That to ignore the facts does not
change the facts.

I’ve learned:
That when you plan to get even with
someone, you are only letting that
person continue to hurt you.

I’ve learned:
That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I’ve learned:
That the easiest way for me to grow
as a person is to surround myself with
people smarter than I am.

I’ve learned:
That everyone you meet deserves
to be greeted with a smile.

I’ve learned:
That there’s nothing sweeter than
sleeping with your babies and feeling
their breath on your cheeks.

I’ve learned:
That no one is perfect until you fall
in love with them.

I’ve learned:
That life is tough, but I’m tougher.

I’ve learned:
That opportunities are never lost;
someone will take the ones you miss.

I’ve learned:
That when you harbor bitterness,
happiness will dock elsewhere.

I’ve learned:
That I wish I could have told my Dad
that I love him one more time before
he passed away.

I’ve learned:
That one should keep his words both
soft and tender, because tomorrow he
may have to eat them.

I’ve learned:
That a smile is an inexpensive way
to improve your looks.

I’ve learned:
That I can’t choose how I feel, but I
can choose what I do about it.

I’ve learned:
That when your newly born child holds
your little finger in his little fist, that you’re
hooked for life.

I’ve learned:
That everyone wants to live on top of
the mountain, but all the happiness and
growth occurs while you’re climbing it.

I’ve learned:
That it is best to give advice in only two
circumstances; when it is requested
and when it is a life threatening situation.

I’ve learned:
That the less time I have to work with,
the more things I get done.

He Doesn’t Give Me Enough Time and Attention!

“Your primary sense of self is through your relationships–as a mother, a friend, and a wife and lover; his is his success as a man.” Men Made Easy

A common complaint of women is that their boyfriend or husband is too busy with his work to give them the time and attention they want.

As I explain in one of the Secrets about men in Men Made Easy, a man’s work is how he defines himself ‘as a man.’ You need to understand this Secret because if you complain, what it feels like to him is you’re trying to rip apart his identity, basically, trying to emasculate him. Yes, he’s driven to be successful, BUT, and this is key, when you’re happy, he feels successful, so much so that if you’re unhappy, he feels like a failure.

First, you need to not take it personally. When he was working to win your heart, that was like a job to him. Once that goal was achieved, he went back to focusing on his work. That’s when you saw how he relates to his work. Some men can leave their work behind at the end of the day. Some can’t. You knew what you were getting involved with. So it’s not fair to complain and it makes you VERY unattractive.

When he does give you time and attention, appreciate the heck out of him by telling him how happy it makes you, how good it makes you feel, etc. But not all in one gush. Spread them out. When you do nice things for him, tell him, “I’m doing this as a thank you forhttp://www.alivewithlove.com., because it meant so much to me.” Hopefully he’s sensitive enough to notice what he’s been doing that makes you happy and that you are showing him how much you appreciate his attention in some pretty special ways.

The primary directive for a great relationship is to approach every situation with the idea of “how can you make this a win/win situation.” It’s not always easy, but ALWAYS worth the effort.

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From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

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