Older Women, Younger Men

An older woman wrote to me recently, wanting to know how she could meet a man. This is a topic near and dear to my heart because my man is much younger. And NO, I am not a cougar. I do not like that term, any more than I like other labels. When we label something or someone, we put our own interpretation of what that means. I don’t even like the terms boyfriend or girlfriend for the same reason. But I digress…

Here’s what I told her:

Age is a huge issue because even older men usually want a younger woman. I am 63 and felt invisible to men. But my boyfriend, who is 39 said men did notice, I just wasn’t letting it in. He’s known me for over 2 years and was interested way before I realized it. So it can happen, and man, was I as surprised as anyone.

I have heard that your city is difficult, but women everywhere say where they live is difficult. Part of the problem is there are more women than men in almost every community.

First, it’s important to be okay with the possibility that you will not meet someone. Otherwise, there’s a bit of desperation in your energy, and men can ‘smell’ that a mile away. I had to get to that point and it felt pretty good. I was able to accept that if it happens, great, if not, I have an amazing life.

Then, you need to get out and stay active. Go to places men will be but not the clubs and bars. Take classes, go to lectures, charity events, or pick a sport–maybe bicycling, rowing, skiing–and join a club. Or take ballroom dancing, or salsa. Just stay very busy. And if you’ve read Men Made Easy, work on developing sparkling Feminine Grace. And use the Secrets about men with ALL men. You never know if one might be interested, or he might have a friend or relative who is looking for someone just like you.

I am in the most amazing relationship of my life. In my wildest dreams, I would not have thought a 39-year-old with two young daughters could be the man of my dreams…actually, I never dreamed anyone like him existed. So unless you’re totally turned off by the idea of a younger man, keep that as an option as well. There are a lot of younger men who like older women. Partly because a lot of younger women are such ball-busters, or are too needy. A sharp younger man enjoys the wisdom of an older woman, and the freedom they often have with their body and sexuality.

And definitely open your horizons to include men of other cultures and colors. I’ve always been attracted to black men, but in my community, there aren’t many. But lucky me, I’m living my fantasies, every day. Yummers!

The most important thing to do is get okay with being alone. Then your sense of self-assurance will be much more alluring.

If you want to learn the Secrets about men that EVERY woman really should know, you’ll definitely want to get your hands on Men Made Easy.

And if you want the 3 free ebooks that explain how men can be Cavemen, Dogs, and Princes, all at the same time, download them at KaraOh.com.
From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

The Luxury of Love

Many of our reactions to each other, what attracts us and drives us to want to be with someone of the opposite sex is deeply embedded in our biology and has to do with survival over the eons of time. But today, because survival is not the motivating factor in our lives, we are blessed with the opportunity to fall in love, to pleasure each other with romantic gestures and to want a love that endures and deepens over time.

When survival was the motivating factor in a couple marrying and creating a family, there weren’t the complications of dating. Even today, many cultures still have arranged marriages where the most important factors are political, economic and whether or not the woman seems to have baby-making potential. But in many cultures, like here in the U.S., it’s a lot of work to find someone with whom there is a mutual attraction and even more work to keep that love and attraction alive over time. One thing that can really help people have greater success is to know each other better. It is estimated that 83% of divorces could be prevented if couples asked each other the right questions. For a list of the most important questions to ask, click here.

Most of our role models for modern relationships are from movies and television. With divorce, kids don’t have any kind of roll model of how it might be to have a home with loving parents. So we are making it up as we go, and it’s pretty obvious that we’re not doing a very good job. One of the best ways to stay “in love” is to create triggers that help us let go of the petty grievances and stay focused on the qualities that attracted us in the first place.

During some quiet time, write a description of the man you fell in love with. Focus on the things that you most admire, the things that made you tingle at the thought of him, the things you did together, and the things he did to you. Bring back the feelings you had when you were falling in love with him and you couldn’t keep your mind off of him. Unless he’s changed and is mistreating you, you can re-ignite those feelings of love. Think of the strongest trigger for you and lock that in as the thing that you will think about when you begin to get angry or frustrated at him, especially when it’s over petty things. I always think about how my husband looked during our wedding ceremony. Melts my heart every time.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship or a perfect man or woman. But there is such a thing as love and it doesn’t have to die. But like any fire, if it doesn’t get tended, watched over, given more fuel to burn, it will go out. Love isn’t that easy to come by, especially love so strong that we actually want to marry someone. So how sad, when that love dies, especially if it is mostly because the relationship became less important than the job, the house, the social life, the shopping. Without love, life is lacking, like hearing a favorite love song, and having no one to ask to dance.

So make that list. Feel the feelings of love as you remember in vivid color, feel the emotions, and enjoy reliving the beginning of your love. Then share your best memories with your partner. Better yet, ask him to make a list of his own, then, on a special date or weekend away, share your memories. And don’t be surprised that you have new memories to share.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Are You Looking For a Man With Money?

I was talking to a woman recently and as usually happens, the topic of what I do came up. After explaining that I write books, do public speaking and led workshops and seminars about relationships, she told me she was looking for a man to be in a relationship with.

Everything she said she was looking for had to do with how much money he needed to make. This is NOT how you get a man to fall in love with you.

It scares me how often money is top of the list for so many women. Whatever happened to wanting a nice man, a loving man, a kind man, a caring man? Whatever happened to looking at how capable a man is of loving and being able participate in creating and sustaining a fulfilling relationship?  Maybe that’s why so many women have trouble finding their “dream” guy. That dream guy can smell a woman’s selfish, self-centered, materialism a mile away. That’s what a man feels when he comes across this kind of woman.

Men, on the other hand, generally state “attractive” as their first item of what they’re looking for, then “smart.” Of course, men also forget to mention wanting a woman who can join him in creating a beautiful relationship that grows in love over time, but that’s mostly because they assume the woman is the relationship expert. One of my primary goals is to help people get back to what being in a relationship is really about.

The goal ought to be to feel loved, fulfilled, content and happy because of how their partner helps enhance their life. Instead, all too often, women get into a relationship, then, after a time, wonder what’s missing, sensing that something isn’t right, without knowing what.

Here’s what needs to be on the top of the list:

• Loving
• Being loved
• Being seen
• Feeling supported
• Feeling accepted for who we are
• Having someone to share your life with
• Having great *sex*
• Sharing deep, heart-to-heart intimacy
• Knowing someone is there for you
• Being able to create a truly fulfilling, heart-centered relationship

None of these things come naturally to most men, or women, for that matter. Nature is about survival. Most of us don’t have to deal with survival so we get the luxury to ask for more. The problem is that most people seem to be focused on what they want, rather than what they can offer and what it means to have love as the center point of a relationship. Kind of like being back in the survival mode.

To create a truly satisfying relationship you need to open your heart and look at what your spirit needs. The outer material things will not hold you in the night. And we all know plenty of very rich people who get divorced… each and every day. How much a man makes and how gorgeous a woman is is not what you build an enduring, long-term, holding hands when you’re 90, kind of relationship.

Find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three. Download 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

5 Guaranteed Ways To Turn a Man OFF!

There are some really simple ways to get a man’s attention and cause  him to want to get to know you. But I thought it would be fun, and maybe  drive the point home in a more powerful way, to tell you how you can  turn men off, guaranteed. Clearly, this is all tongue-in-cheek, but it’s  still the truth.

5 Ways To Turn Men Off

1) Slouch. One of the quickest, easiest ways to look  completely unattractive, to actually be repellent, is to slouch. When  you stand up straight, with good posture, the message you are broadcasting is, “I’m confident, comfortable  with who I am, and I’m worth getting to know.”

When you slouch you’re  saying, “I’m not worthy of your notice, I’m insecure, ignore me, treat  me as a second-class citizen.” What man will be interested in that?  Plus, you send great energy when you stand tall and as an added bonus,  your breasts look much more attractive.

2) Smoke. If you really want to turn men off big-time, light a  cigarette. When you do so you advertise that you’re a low-class woman;  your hair, clothes, and breath stink; you taste horrible when  kissed; you have no respect for your body or your health or your future  appearance because you are guarantee to be very wrinkled, and wrinkled  before your time. I don’t think I need to say more.

Being a non-smoker  will keep the door open to a classy, quality man. Smoking will only attract another smoker.

3) Get drunk. This will advertise very nicely that you lack  self-control, that you are blind to how embarrassing you are, how risky  it will be that you will throw up, that you will most likely sleep with a  man too easily. Ah yes, the lists goes on. This is especially effective  on a first date with a quality man. Stick to one drink when you’re  meeting a man and you’ll be safe from this turn off.

4) Swear. If you are looking for a man who doesn’t need to  respect his woman, then swearing will certainly turn the classy, quality  men off and get you the attention of crass, disrespectful, tacky men.  In my opinion, a woman should never swear in front of someone she doesn’t know,  or doesn’t know very well, especially if she wants to attract his attention.

Later, after you’ve gotten to know him, swearing in the right situation, to make a point, is okay in my book. But don’t ever be a potty mouth.

5) Let your body go to pot. Most men, even those who are way  out of shape want a woman who appears healthy.

Not skinny, just healthy.

You don’t need to be a size 2. You can be a size 12 and be healthy. So  if you want to turn men off, gain weight, don’t exercise, and to add a  guarantee, ignore your hair, make-up, clothes and generally show that  you have no respect for your body or your appearance. That’ll pretty much do it.

If you do any of these things, just know that you are narrowing the  field. You need all the help you can get so doing any of the above makes  it more and more difficult to find a good man with whom to share your life.

If you want to learn how to determine if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince…or all three, download three free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

What If He Is Done With You?

Women frequently write to me describing what’s going on with the man they’ve been seeing, asking if it looks like he’s done with them.

A good question to ask yourself is, “What’s the worst thing that will happen if he is over you?” Will you die? Not unless you do something to yourself. Usually, when there’s a break-up, the person eventually gets over it, then falls into the next relationship. But generally, nothing was really learned from the previous relationship that would make them smarter the next time.

Much of what I teach is how to take control of our lives. One of the most important steps in doing that is trusting that what is happening now, especially if it hurts, is preparing us for the next thing. When one relationship doesn’t work out, it simply means that you weren’t a match.

If you learn the lessons from that relationship, you will be better able to create a relationship that makes you happy, that isn’t always so much work, one where he makes you feel cherished and adored. It takes some soul searching, honesty and work on yourself, but definitely worth the effort. After all, you do want a love-filled relationship, don’t you?

Why do we hang on to a relationship that isn’t working when, once we let go, we are then open to something that DOES work?

Something to think about.

If you want to know if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, be sure and download my 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

Are You Attractive To Men, Or Repellent?

Chelsea Kaplan wrote an article titled “Are You The Last One Single?” One of her pieces of advice attempted to answer the question: How can single women project confidence when inside, they’re panicking? She recommends that a woman “project a radiantly positive persona, date  with dignity, and transform any desperation sensations into high  desirability–that’s how to reign in the Panic.”

From personal experience, this is not something you just do. Using my Love Triangle, it first requires you have clear Awareness (the 1st side of the triangle) of what you’re doing and feeling. Once you become aware, you can then shift your Intention (the second side of the triangle) so that you have more choice in how you are responding inside.

An example would be the following:

You’re with a man you find  attractive. This adds pressure because you want to be sure he likes you.  You begin to feel the inner panic that he might not be interested in  you, which causes you to slip into a state of insecurity. If you are not  aware that this is going on, you will most likely not be attractive to  him because men like women who are confident, at ease with themselves,  and comfortable to be with.

But once you notice you’re beginning to feel the discomfort of insecurity, you have moved into a state of awareness. That’s when you can do something about it, which is to shift your intention.  To do that you could tell yourself to relax and breathe. Or you could  shift your concern for yourself over to him and that he might be feeling  insecure as well. Or you could imagine loving energy going from your  heart to his.

This will cause a shift in your Energy (the 3rd side of the Love Triangle). When you are in a state of insecurity, what Kaplan calls Panic, your energy is quite unattractive to men, even repellent. So with any shift in Awareness you allow yourself the option of shifting your Intention, which can then cause your Energy to go from repellent to attractivehttp://www.alivewithlove.com. so much so, that the man you’re  with could very well be so drawn to you that you become irresistible.

When you can do the above, dating becomes fun. That’s when you have  choices, that’s when you feel fully empowered as the magnificent woman  you’re capable of being. My course, From Flirting To Forever teaches women how to shift their energy from ” repellent panic” to “attractive Feminine Grace.”

If you want to know if a man is a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, be sure and download my 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

Could This Be Why You’re Single?

I was talking to a 37 year old man today – I’ll call him Jake – about  his recent experiences with women. He related a conversation he had on  the phone with a woman he hadn’t even met yet. She told him she had 63  things on her list that she was looking for in a man. She’d recently met  one who had 61 items on her list but it didn’t work out. Yikes!

Then, she sent Jake an email that said she was feeling fat. THEY HAVEN’T EVEN MET YET!!! Is this woman crazy?

He said all the women he’s met have been bossy and controlling.  They’re angry, bitter, and not even 40 yet. He’s generally dated women  under 30. He said women in their 20′s are still able and interested in  learning and improving themselves. He thought he wanted to start looking  for a woman who is older, has a career, and more mature. But now he’s  starting to re-think that idea. I know this man, he’s a great guy, kind,  loving, generous, fun, handsome, charismatic, and patient. But he’s  smart enough to know when a woman is going to be high maintenance, who  enjoys beating him up.

When I first met Chris, my ex-fiance’ and still good friend, he  marveled that I didn’t beat him up and wasn’t angry and bitter, as he  said most women over 40 seemed to be. He just couldn’t get over it.

Ladies, if you’re reading this, can you see yourself in this young  man’s description of today’s “confident, capable, take-no-prisoners”  modern woman? There’s a reason why you’re single. It’s not that there  are no good men left. It’s that the good ones don’t want to go out with  an angry woman.

My calling in life is to teach women how to get back to enjoying  being a woman and being with a man. What’s going on today is scary. It  makes me sad that so many women and men are wanting to be in a relationship, but they don’t have a clue why it’s not working for them.

Any woman who is ready to quit wasting her time on the dating merry-go-round needs to understand the basic foundation of dating smart. So I wrote  Date Smart and Win His Heart, which is the workbook for Avoid The Bad  Boys. Get it now, before you go out on your next date.

There are plenty of good men out there but you’ve got to know how to  attract them. They’re running scared because most women they meet are  angry and don’t seem to even like men. If you can learn the art of Feminine Grace,  you’ll be shocked how men will stand in line for the chance to get to  know you. It’s not that difficult but you need to be willing to make the  changes that will not only make you more attractive but also make you  happier.

To learn all my Secrets about men, and how to use them go to MenMadeEasy.com.

And to discover if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, download 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

Why Didn’t He Want Another Date?

 

Have you ever been interested in, or worse, in love with a man and he leaves for no apparent reason? Maybe it’s because you’re a High Maintenance woman and don’t realize it.

Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with high maintenance  women. Let me explain why it’s one of the worst things you can do if you want a man to fall in love with you and STAY in love.

You’ve heard of high maintenance women but do you know what that  means? Hopefully, after I explain this sad malady, you’ll cleanse any  HM behavior you might be doing without realizing it so you no longer scare men off.

A high maintenance woman needs everything to be just right.  For example, she’s  extremely particular what restaurant she needs  to be taken to, then what table she needs to sit  at and needs her food prepared just so.

With all those needs, she’s going to point out when things  aren’t right. Most men won’t go on a second date with this kind of woman  because it doesn’t feel good to be around her. NOTE: Bottom line, men want to be with a woman who makes him feel good. But some women keep this  behavior under tight wraps at first, trying to put their best stiletto  forward. But when her needs are this extreme, they squish out eventually, and often in some pretty ugly ways.

That’s when the guy starts heading for the door. It’s pretty obvious  to spot this kind of woman and even more obvious why a man would not  want to get involved with her. Even her women friends can handle only so  much of her self-centered behavior.

But what about the Stealth High Maintenance woman? This kind of woman  sneaks up on a man, so he doesn’t realize what he’s getting himself into. All he  knows is that he doesn’t feel good to be around her.

So how do you  define a SHM woman? She lets her date know in subtle ways that he’s  disappointing her. She sighs when she says, “Sure, that restaurant will  be just fine.” But he can tell that he’s blowing it, he just doesn’t  quite know why. And for a while, he’ll try hard to please her. And the more he’s attracted to her, the harder and longer he’ll try.

But eventually, she wears away at his sense of masculinity. He realizes that she’s a bottomless pit and will never be happy. One of the Secrets about men that I reveal in Men Made Easy is, “If you’re not happy, he’s a failure.” Men hate to fail. I’ve asked many men over the years why they left their wife or girlfriend and what they say, with body language that shows their sense of failure, “I couldn’t make her happy.” Another important thing I teach in this book is the concept of Feminine Grace. A high maintenance woman cannot be gracious because she’s too self-centered.

A high maintenance woman doesn’t get second, or for sure, third dates very often.  She doesn’t understand why and neither does he. What’s going on is she’s unaware of the most powerful strategy for getting and keeping a man’s  interest.

Do you want to know what that strategy is? Be the reason he feels  good, the reason his mood is lighter, the reason he’s happy he’s a man.  You have the power to do that. Men Made Easy can teach you how.

If you want to find out if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, you can download three free ebooks atKaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Is the Economy Affecting How Men Date?

 

If you find men not paying much attention to you lately, it might not be you, it might be money worries.

With what is going on in the economy men tend to go inward when they  are concerned about their finances or their jobs. They aren’t thinking  about dating other than maybe to get laid, which relieves them of the worry for a short time.

Even though you’re worried as well, men take it as a jolt against  their manhood. It’s not personal because they really can’t see you when  their mind is filled with concerns about their future and their  financial world.

When you do find yourself in a conversation with a man, keep this in  mind, be gentle and understanding, and open to just listening, because  it might be exactly what will cause him to come out of his fog and  really notice that you are someone special.

If you want to know the 12 Secrets about men that will cause him to see you like no other woman he’s ever met, you’ll want Men Made Easy, right now.

And if you want to know if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, you can download my 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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He’s Wonderful… But

I often get requests for advice from women who tell me how wonderful their man is. Then they go into all the things that make them unhappy. If this sounds like you, I  would invited you to do an exercise that can be very revealing. On a  piece of paper draw a line down the middle from top to bottom. On the  left put the things about him that ARE wonderful and the things he does that make you happy. On the right  put the things that are NOT wonderful and make you unhappy.

NOTE: If you’ve been reading my articles, then you know that I firmly believe that NO ONE can MAKE you unhappy. Only you can do that by how you respond to situations and what others do. You can also make yourself happy, by how you look at life. A positive, grateful attitude and perspective will cause you to be happy.

When you do the above exercise, you can see in black  and white, a clearer picture of who a man is and if he is what you want. It is not your job to try to change a man’s character or personality. You can change surface things, like how he cuts his hair, whether or not he has a beard, or getting him to wear cowboy boots because you think they’re sexy. But just as you are responsible for your own happiness, you are NOT responsible for his.

On another note, you should never make excuses for his character. He’s either someone you trust, admire and respect, or he’s not. If not, ask yourself why you are with him? Dating is about discovering who a man is, not trying to create a relationship. Once you are clear that a man has all the qualities that you need in a partner, THEN you start forming a relationship.

If you want to become very clear about what kind of man you want, and at the same time, stop wasting your time on the wrong kind of man, you absolutely need to get Avoid The Bad Boys. It will open you eyes like nothing else can.

And if you want to discover if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three, download my 3 free ebooks at KaraOh.com.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

Learning From Fuzzy Love

 

I think I understand where “warm-fuzzies” came from.

I am just finishing “Marley & Me” and each time I pick it up, I  cry deep, heartfelt tears. If you ever struggle with finding your daily  heart connection here’s a bit from John Grogan’s book: “Was it possible  for a dog––any dog, but especially a nutty, wildly uncontrollable one  like ours––to point humans to the things that really matter in life? I  believe it was. Loyalty. Courage. Devotion. Simplicity. Joy. And the  things that did not matter, too. A dog has no use for fancy cars or big  homes or designer clothes. Status symbols mean nothing to him. A water-logged stick will do just fine. A dog judges others not by their  color or creed or class but by who they are inside. A dog doesn’t care  if you are rich or poor, educated or illiterate, clever or dull. Give  him your heart and he will give you his.”

After writing about the death of Marley in his newspaper column Mr.  Grogan received over 800 emails responding with deeply touched hearts.  This one, from Elaine, touched my heart the most: “Such short little  lives our pets have to spend with us, and they spend most of it waiting  for us to come home each day. It is amazing how much love and laughter  they bring into our lives and even how much closer we become with each  other because of them.”

If you are dating and searching for Ms. or Mr. Right, I recommend you borrow or rent a puppy.

Take it out where there will be lots of people, and watch how easily fears, insecurities and judgments just float away.

People will come up to you, smile, share their joy and connect their  hearts to yours, if only for those brief furry moments that you bask in  the pure, unadulterated sweetness of an innocent puppy.

You don’t even have to like animals to fall under the spell of a  puppy. But if you don’t like animals, you might want to take a look at  what that’s about. I suspect there’s a “Heart Condition” needing a  little T.L.C.

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Your Positive Attitude Keeps Him Coming Back For More

I am a huge proponent of feeling all of your  emotions, fully and completely. That’s one of the many joys of being  human and female. BUT, there is an overarching emotion that runs your life. Are you positive or negative? Do you notice what’s good in your life, or do you put your emphasis on what’s not working?

How well your life works has to do with where you put your focus. This article came out of a conversation about  blamers and people whose habitual perspective is to see the world  through the filter of “The Cup Is Half Empty,” or “Look At What’s Wrong  With the World,” or “You Know What’s Really Sad?”, etc.

My personal  preference is to see “The Cup Is Overflowing.” And, in my life, that’s  exactly what I get. Not that icky things don’t happen. But even when  they do, I embrace them because that means I will learn a lesson, and  come out the other end a happier, wiser woman with even greater capacity  to love and be loved. I am living proof that this philosophy works.

Another piece of my personal philosophy is, “Everything that’s happening  is supposed to be happening, or it wouldn’t be happening.” It’s  my way  of accepting what is so I don’t get tossed around by life. We ALL make  choices every moment of every day. Our perspective is one of those many  choices and it will absolutely color EVERYTHING we see and interpret.

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Should He Tell You What He’s Doing?

A woman wrote recently to ask my advice about what to say to her guy about his not telling her what he was going to be doing. Her concern was not wanting to wait for him. I’m afraid I gave her more than she bargained for.

My advice: If you don’t have a date set, with a time, say nothing. He is a free individual and can do anything he wants. He shouldn’t have to tell you where he is and what he’s doing. You either trust him or you don’t. If you don’t it’s either because you have trust issues, or he’s untrustworthy. If you have trust issues, you need to work on those before you’re in a relationship. If he’s untrustworthy, you should not be with him.

I hope that all makes sense. One of the reasons men leave the women they are dating is they lose their freedom. Men shouldn’t have to lose their freedom. Watch this video to hear my wise friend discuss this topic: What Does Commitment Mean To a Man.

And did you see my comedy show? I make a joke about women wanting to get a man to “behave.” If you are offended by the “F” word, don’t watch it!: How To Get a Man To Behave.

I hope this advice helps. The bottom line is, if you have to work to get him to behave, then there’s a problem. Women generally try to get men to behave, and men want their freedom. That’s why it’s so important to develop Feminine Grace because a big part of it is looking in the mirror and looking at our behavior, our responses and reactions to people and situations.

Either a man is enhancing our lives, or they’re not. If they’re not, we need to look at why we think they’re not. Are we being reasonable and respectful of his need to be his own person, or is he truly being disrespectful.

If he’s being disrespectful, he might not realize it. That’s when we can say something like this, “You probably didn’t mean it, but when you did (or said) http://www.alivewithlove.com. it made me feel http://www.alivewithlove.comhttp://www.alivewithlove.com I just wanted to let you know.” Then see how he responds. If he apologizes and says that’s not what I meant, then you can have a calm UNEMOTIONAL discussion about how you can find balance with your need to control him, and his need for freedom.

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

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There Was Chemistry. What Happened?

A woman wrote to me explaining that she’d been on a few dates and thought it was going great. Fun conversations, good time, kissing and a bit of petting, but no sex yet. She definitely felt strong chemistry. Then, wham, he wrote and said he wasn’t that attracted to her.

My advice:

I know it feels awful. But the other side of the hurt is, “Thank goodness you didn’t get more deeply involved.” If he isn’t attracted enough, or just wanted sex, then it’s good that he showed his true colors early on. But the fact that you attracted him should tell you that your energy is attractive. That always feels great. Focus on the fact that this was just a stepping stone to the right man.

Get out some of your favorite music and dance. You’ll for sure feel better!

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

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He’s Not Ready for a Relationship

Have you ever had a man tell you he likes you, enjoys dating you, but isn’t ready for a relationship right now? I get letters from women all the time who are upset when the man they’re dating delivers this message. Usually, the woman paints him as a villain, when he’s actually just being honest.

A man can be a good guy without wanting the long term relationship. The big question I always ask is, “Are you intending to make babies?” If not, why not just enjoy this man and see where it goes.

Women tend to be hung up on a relationship needing to ‘move to the next level.’ But what if just being together and enjoying each other IS the next level? If you want to get married, can you give a clear answer to why? So often, we want things simply because we’ve taught to want them, not because it’s what our heart desires.

Get very clear about what you REALLY want, and why. Then, if you honestly need to know his long term intentions ‘right now,’ then this is not the man for you. If you’re willing to allow things to unfold in their own way, in their own time, you could be surprised at how much you enjoy the journey.

And remember, even when we have that commitment and the promises, there are no guarantees that they’re going to last. Even with marriage and children, there are no guarantees.

What I notice is women are not able to enjoy that unfolding, because they’re so focused on what is ‘supposed to be,’ and worried about ‘where is this going.’

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

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Should You Stay Or Should You Go?

When you’re struggling with whether or not you should continue to date someone, here are some tests you can do on your situation so you can more effectively step away from your feelings and tap in to your inner wisdom. You already know the answers but our emotions, shoulds, other’s expectations, time invested, etc. can color our ability to know what’s best for us.

1. Ask this question: Is this a man you would want as the father of your children? This question takes the emotion out of it and causes us to be very smart about what is the best choice.
2. Do a Ben Franklin: On a piece of paper, draw a vertical line down the middle. On the left side write all the things about him that make you happy. On the right side, write all the things that make you unhappy. With each item, preferably in a light meditation, ask how each one makes you feel. Write it down. You will know if this is what you really want.
3. Ask yourself: If this is the way it will be the whole time I am with this man, do I really want this relationship?
   You only know how it is now and you don’t know if it is going to change. Something to consider seriously.
4. Do the Rocking Chair Test: Imagine sitting on your front porch in your rocking chair. You’re very old, at the end of your life. Think about how you would feel if you stayed with this manhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.then think about how you feel if you decided to leave.

It’s amazing how helpful it is to separate ourselves from it through time to get a clearer sense of what to do.

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Are Prenuptial Agreements Unromantic or Smart?

 

On Good Morning America this morning, they had a story on the growing popularity of prenuptial agreements. They’re no longer just for the rich. I posted this topic on my Facebook account this morning and saw that there is some confusion about what a prenuptial agreement is.

Marriage is actually a legal contract. That’s why a divorce has to be done as a legal event. A prenuptial takes the bare bones legal contract of marriage, and creates a contract that is unique to the needs of each couple. If you both brought a home to the union, or if you have children, or if you want to have children and you will stay home with them, with no income, you can create a contract that deals with all these things. The contract can address EVERY issue you can imagine. And, as time goes by, it can be amended to cover new situations that arise throughout your marriage. You can even put in who will be responsible for walking the dog or what are the consequences if one of you ‘falls off the wagon.’The bottom line is a prenuptial agreement makes you consider the practical side of your lives together, which is always a good idea. In my book, Marriage Makeover and Affair Repair, as well as my upcoming book on pre-marriage planning, I actually take the reader through what should happen prior to ever marriage. That is, to look at the joining of two people in the same way you would the creation of a business. Romance and passion are great but the day-to-day stuff of life are practical, nuts-and-bolts aspects of our lives.

 

Prenuptial agreements may not be romantic, but they are smart. I think every couple should have one because it makes them look at the practical side of creating a life together.

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He’s Either Attracted… Or He’s Not

A man is attracted right away, or he’s not. They are way more visual that we want to admit. Women often tell me they think a man will ‘become’ attracted after he gets to know them. It doesn’t work that way. That’s how women often fall in love. We might be attracted initially, but then he does something or starts to open up, show some vulnerability, and, wham!, we fall in love.

These same women are often enjoying a ‘friendship’ with the man and expect things to ‘grow’ into a romantic relationship.

Men need to have a certain level of physical attraction (that includes excitement) for them to want to develop a relationship. He may be comfortable with you, enjoys being with you, enjoys talking with you, but men don’t want comfortable, at least not until they’re in their sixties and up.

When he’s made it clear that he doesn’t have romantic feelings for you, believe him! If he doesn’t want to get physical, that’s one of the biggest signs that he isn’t interested in anything more than friendship.

The most important advice I want to offer here is DO NOT put your life on hold, hoping his feelings will change. If you want romance, you need to meet a man who is attracted to you right away. So get yourself out there, meet lots of men, and eventually, the right one will spot you and want to get to know you a whole lot better.

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He Doesn’t Give Me Enough Time and Attention!

“Your primary sense of self is through your relationships–as a mother, a friend, and a wife and lover; his is his success as a man.” Men Made Easy

A common complaint of women is that their boyfriend or husband is too busy with his work to give them the time and attention they want.

As I explain in one of the Secrets about men in Men Made Easy, a man’s work is how he defines himself ‘as a man.’ You need to understand this Secret because if you complain, what it feels like to him is you’re trying to rip apart his identity, basically, trying to emasculate him. Yes, he’s driven to be successful, BUT, and this is key, when you’re happy, he feels successful, so much so that if you’re unhappy, he feels like a failure.

First, you need to not take it personally. When he was working to win your heart, that was like a job to him. Once that goal was achieved, he went back to focusing on his work. That’s when you saw how he relates to his work. Some men can leave their work behind at the end of the day. Some can’t. You knew what you were getting involved with. So it’s not fair to complain and it makes you VERY unattractive.

When he does give you time and attention, appreciate the heck out of him by telling him how happy it makes you, how good it makes you feel, etc. But not all in one gush. Spread them out. When you do nice things for him, tell him, “I’m doing this as a thank you forhttp://www.alivewithlove.com., because it meant so much to me.” Hopefully he’s sensitive enough to notice what he’s been doing that makes you happy and that you are showing him how much you appreciate his attention in some pretty special ways.

The primary directive for a great relationship is to approach every situation with the idea of “how can you make this a win/win situation.” It’s not always easy, but ALWAYS worth the effort.

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Why are Men Interested in Finding a Russian Bride?

“At least two times this week, interact with a man, any man, and be aware of his soft, protected heart. Notice how this makes you feel about him. Focus on his masculine qualities, but, at the same time, remember what society has done to shut him down.”   Men Made Easy

If you’ve ever done a search engine search for love and romance, you’ve probably seen those sites that offer men the opportunity to meet Russian woman. If you’re curious like me, you’ve probably wondered what the heck that’s about. Well, recently, I was talking with a girlfriend and she mentioned that one of her dear men friends had just returned from his second trip to Russia. He was there to meet his potential bride and her family. This man is apparently nice looking, successful in his career, a terrific guy. And yet, he feels the need to go to Russia to find a woman. I asked my girlfriend why and he told her that he had no luck finding a woman here. Apparently, American women are too independent, strong-willed, aggressive, demanding, and don’t feel equal to, but superior to men.

Men have told me this before but somehow, what my friend told me really opened my eyes about how bad it is. I’ve talked to a lot of single men since then, and most of them feel the same way. Of course most men don’t go to Russia to find a woman. They simply keep plugging away, searching for a woman to love.

My girlfriend’s friend , and since I wrote this article, two other men, have all agreed that they have married Russian women because they are more old fashioned in that they want to coddle, wait on, give to, and spoil their man. What man wouldn’t like that? And the Russian women are excited at the opportunity to be able to move to America, with it’s wealth of products and comforts. . . and these men have reported that they are, indeed, enjoying happy marriages. So it must be working for both sides of the relationships.

One caveat: Obviously not all Russian women are not what these men described, as an angry Russian woman recently pointed out. But this discussion is about women who are on the “Meet Russian Women” websites, and obviously, only from the perspective of what the men have told me. The main point I wish to make is actually aimed at American women. If you fit the category of “too independent, strong-willed, aggressive, demanding, and don’t feel equal to, but superior to men”, then you might look at how happy you are, or have been, in your romantic relationships with men. It’s a bit like “getting more with honey than with vinegar.”

As I have tried to explain in Men Made Easy, “Feminine Grace gives you more power with men. A woman with Feminine Grace, because she is softer, yet confidently so, is going to have a happier man, which means she is going to get more of what she wants from her romantic relationship. Actually, with most men with whom she interacts.”

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3 Ways To Spice Up a Long Distance Relationship

Women frequently ask me what they can do to keep their long distance relationship strong. A problem for most men is they need to be in the presence of their woman more frequently than women do. That’s because women are so good at using their imagination to fantasize about their guy. But men don’t do that. They need to see and touch you.

But there are some things you can do if you’ve got a real relationship, meaning you do spend time together occasionally. If you’ve never met, that isn’t a relationship, at least not yet. It’s just the getting to know each other stage.

In Men Made Easy I talk about the power of complimenting a man. That’s good once in a while, but because men want to be with a woman who encourages him to enjoy being a man, you should focus on appreciating him. You see, the reason he fell in love with you is because you make him feel good. Appreciation offers a nice dose of those good feelings.

So here three things you can do to perk up his interest:

1. When he calls, let him know how much you appreciate it and how loved he makes you feel.
2. Let him know how much you appreciate that he’s doing this training and how taken care of he makes you feel.
3. Then, if it feels right, why not flirt with him? Tell him you wish he was there because you’ve been thinking about the last time you made love and you’re hungry for him. That kind of thing. If he responds, don’t be afraid to have phone sex. This will make him miss you more than ever.

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

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That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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Is the Perfect Partner Just a Fairy Tale?

Do you have a realistic idea of what you’re looking for in a partner, or is a fairy tale running the show? How often do you stop to consider exactly what you want and why? How conscious are you when it comes to looking for that “special someone”?

Are you aware of the power of setting goals? Any book or seminar on goal setting will tell you the importance of clear, concise goals. When you’re clear about what you want, the universal forces (or your unconscious) will assist you in manifesting exactly what you want, at just the right time.

Finding a life partner is not something we should do haphazardly, it’s too important. Most relationships don’t seem to last very long. We find ourselves attracted to someone, begin to get to know them, get physically involved, then find out we don’t want to be with that person. At that point a lot has been invested, emotionally, physically, and time wise, and it’s painful for one or both to part ways.

One way to avoid some of that heartache is to be very clear about what you’re looking for. Then don’t let your heart and hormones take over for your brain.

So, here’s a recipe for manifesting your perfect partner.

First, write down the things that you’re generally attracted to–when you first see someone as well as when you first talk. Be honest here. If you like cowboy boots, write it down. Set this list aside to look at when you’re all done.

The next step is to sit quietly, with no possibility of interruptions, and close your eyes. Calm your mind then ask yourself, “What do I want?”  This isn’t about what traits or qualities you’re looking for yet. It’s about what exactly do you want? Do you really want a partner? Or just someone to hang out with. If you want a partner, is that for marriage, or just a long-term, committed dating situation? It’s important to get clear about this so you can move on to the next step. You may be surprised at your answer if you allow yourself to be truthful. Now, with that in mind, what qualities and traits do you want this person to have? Let your list grow freely and don’t judge your answers. Dream big, be silly, write everything down. If you’re looking for marriage, your list will probably be longer than if you’re looking for someone to hang out with. When you can’t think of any more, keep writing. Fill the page. I have fifty-nine items on my list. One of them is well-manicured hands and feet. Silly? Maybe, but it’s important to me. Just keep writing.

After you feel you really have completed your list, go through and pick the things that absolutely must be in place when you meet this person. An example would be integrity. That’s something that, generally, as an adult, a person already has, or not. My list had eight items. This is the list you carry around with you. Give a copy to a trusted friend. If any of these things are missing, you must say good-bye to any new person you meet. If you don’t, you’re not being true to yourself and you’ll pay for it later.

Then, go back to the long list and find the items that you must have, but could come later. I happen to want a world traveler. I could probably teach someone the joys of traveling the world later on. This is not about changing someone, however. No home improvement projects allowed. Get these lists out frequently so you can remind yourself that you’re looking for more than just a pretty face. Stay in touch with your friend who has the “must have” list. Be honest with them about whether or not the new person you’re dating has these qualities and traits. If not, say good-bye and keep searching. Use your friend as support. If you’re clear and firm about this, you won’t waste time and you’ll manifest your perfect partner much sooner.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

 

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He’s Gone But You Want Him Back

Are you still wishing you could get back with him?

Women write to me–especially after reading Men Made Easy and seeing all the things they did that pushed him away–wanting to know how they can win him back. I do understand their desire to “have another chance” to prove they’re different, but if you don’t have contact, there’s nothing you can do to show him you’ve learned the mistakes you made.

If you can’t stop thinking about him, can’t stop wishing you could have that second chance, and can’t stop thinking about ‘what could have been,’ you need to take charge of those thoughts. Otherwise, your thoughts are controlling you. To do that, you have to find something to replace those thoughts with. To do that, make a list of all the things that you wanted, but he didn’t give you. Now, make a list of what you DO want when the next, better man shows up. Then, when those thoughts jump in take over, notice it, then replace those old thoughts with the thoughts of how great it will be when you meet the man who will give you want. At the very least, you should be with a man who is thrilled to have you in his life. 

When a man cuts all contact with you, it’s more important that you admit it’s over, and begin to take care of yourself. I would recommend you do some kind of ritual. Maybe write down what you gained from being with him, what you learned, and what you want that he couldn’t give you. Then say a kind of prayer asking your spirit to be set free of this man so you can find someone who is excited to be with you. You can burn it or cut it into tiny pieces and let the wind take ithttp://www.alivewithlove.com.whatever feels right. It’s time to move on. 

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The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

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That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

A Quick Guide For Women

If you truly want a better relationship with more love, romance and respct, you need to know the secrets about men that I reveal in my book, Men Made Easy. Available in paperback or instantly downloadable in e-book, you will be invited into his private world. And that is when you’ll finally get what your heart desires.

This quick guide is designed to help women tap into their feminine grace and understand how to be a true partner to their man.

1. Men need to feel successful, so-much-so that, to a man, failure is almost unbearable. For them, if they fail, they no longer feel like men. It’s why most men commit suicide, which they do more often than women.
2. Men are most attracted to happy women who genuinely like themselves and who enjoy being women. When you’re happy, he feels successful. When you’re a bottomless pit who never seems pleased by anything he does, he finally gets worn out and leaves.
3. Men hate it when a woman tries to change them. What it tells them is that they’re not okay the way they are. That makes them feel attacked, which makes them put up defenses against those attackshttp://www.alivewithlove.com.against you. A defended man cannot love a woman the way she wants. You can help him dismantle those defenses and once again open his heart to loving youhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.like in the beginning of your relationship when he thought you were the most wonderful woman on the planet.
4. Since they were boys, men have been taught not to feel. “Pick yourself up, don’t cry, be a man.” Those messages were taken to heart and as men, the only person they feel at all comfortable being intimate with, sharing at least a little of what’s going on inside of them, is their wife. He’ll begin to share things he may have never told you before, no matter how long you’ve been married. You really are his only source of intimacy.
5. When you get engaged it’s the beginning of a fantasy-come-true. But he didn’t pretend wedding when he was a boy, he doesn’t buy “Groom” magazine and plan his wedding. For him, it’s very much a financial decision and a willingness to take on some very big responsibilities. When you understand what he’s going through, he’ll see how unique and special you really are. He won’t want to risk losing you.

I want to help you take charge and begin to be the happy, magnificent woman you were put on this planet to be. If you’re interested in joining me, the first step is to read Men Made Easy because that is the foundation of everything I teach, and where I introduce the concept of Feminine Grace. And you can join my support group where other women, just like you, are struggling with the very same issues you are.

From my heart to yours,

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

Stop Looking For Instant Love!

A woman wrote to me asking me how she could get a man to fall in love with her. This is a man she barely knows. This kind of thinking really scares me.  It’s fine to meet a man and be attracted and intrigued, but to move from “Nice to meet you,” immediately to “Choose me, love me, marry me,” is a recipe for disaster. Almost everyone we meet doesn’t work out, no matter how strong the attraction is.

When you barely know a man, it’s important to keep your rational mind in gear. And don’t forget to use the brakes!

If this is something you tend to do I recommend you take a look at how unhealthy this thinking is. Step back and look at the bigger picture. HE IS A STRANGER. How can you want a total stranger to fall in love with you or want to marry you? It should take months of getting acquainted to get to that point. Yes, there are those rare couples who met and immediately knew and stay happily married forever. But it’s rare.

Unfortunately, romance novels and romantic movies perpetuate this idea that love is instant and everything can be put together with a great big bow tied on it in 90 minutes. That’s not how life works.

Making mental plans for the future with a total stranger is the kind of thinking that gets women in trouble. You get emotionally invested WAY too soon and then when it doesn’t work out, which most beginnings don’t, you have to go through the heartbreakhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.over a stranger. You need to be careful of your heart. It’s a precious thing to give your heart to another. Don’t hand it over so easily. Be cautious, careful and thoughtful. And you’re less likely to chase a man off because you become needy and clingy. No one can protect your heart except you.

So now that you have stepped back, with the intention of taking it slow, one step at a time instead of jumping off the cliff, unaware if there are rocks beneath the surface, here are some tips on how to get a man to fall for you. To begin with, if you follow the Secrets in Men Made Easy you will be different than any woman he’s ever met. Here’s why.

Men Made Easy will teach you why men fall for you because you’ve learned that the following behavior will cause a man to be excited to know you better, win his heart, and cause him to fall in love with you:. You need to develop your Feminine Grace, which includes the following:

1. Be beautiful in how you are.
2. Be happy, cheerful and positive.
3. Don’t complain about anything that happened in your past or what is going on currently. Complaining, about anything, is always ‘ugly.’
4. Don’t lose control of your emotions.
5. Remind him regularly what you appreciate about him.
6. Let him take care of you, to be your hero. Always thank him and let him know how happy he makes you for how he takes care of you.
7. Don’t have sex until you have a conversation where you BOTH agree to be exclusing, not dating or having sex with anyone else. If you do, you’ll probably destroy his interest, plus, you will feel bad for having sex with a stranger who doesn’t want to see you again.
8. Don’t try to figure out if he’s going to hurt you some day. Just get to know him, who he is, how he looks at life, how fun he is, how considerate and respectful, etc. Basically, don’t “interview” him for the job of your boyfriend.
9. Remember that he wants to be with a woman who makes him feel good and who is enjoyable to be with.

You may think this is a lot of work on your part. But look at each item on that list and notice how it will make you feel to behave that way. Everything I teach is about how you can be happierhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.with you, your life and with a man. The goal in understanding men is so you can know what will cause him to fall in love with you, to cherish you and never want to risk losing you. But you have to do your part to make that a reality. You lead and he will follow. Demanding any of that will only chase him away. You’ll learn how to create an amazing relationship when you embrace your Feminine Grace and use the Secrets about men to create the love you crave.

From my heart to yours,

 The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

That’s because the single most important ingredient of any successful relationship is… the power that is hidden within you right now. I call it Feminine Grace and I’ll teach you how to use it. Click Here.

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