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Monogamy, Is It Worth It?
Looking at the hunter-gatherers, survival being a priority, a man would generally not tolerate having to support another man's child. Certainly not after marriage. Even today, overall, men are less tolerant of a woman's affair than women are of a man's. One thing I've noticed is that as women gain economic independence, they're more likely to have affairs. There's also more access to men away from the home.
The men I've talked to about this subject tell me, of course, they would prefer to be able to have sex with any woman they find attractive. Men seem to be able to have sex without it meaning anything, whereas women usually need to at least make up that the man cares. So women have difficulty understanding when their partner says "it didn't mean anything." After a woman has sex with a man a "bonding" hormone is created in her body. She bonds with him because she might have gotten pregnant and she needs that man to bring home the protein. Survival is from where we have evolved. That deep biology is still an important part of us. continued 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets
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This is a big subject but I have a few ideas I'd like to share from my workshops and from my studies of cultural anthropology. I believe men's nature is to have multiple partners. Polygyny (the practice of having more than one wife at a time) is preferred by 85% of the cultures today. Think about this: if there were nine men and one woman left on the planet, we would not be able to re-propagate the species. But, if there were 9 women and one man, we most likely would. It makes biological sense. Women, on the other hand, are generally a lot more monogamous. They need a man they can count on to take care of them while they're pregnant and after the children are born.
