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The First Time, Yikes! Page 2
Women often complain that after they have had sex with a man, he quits calling. Men don't always know why they do this, but here are a couple of ideas. He wasn't that interested. He knows what it usually means to a woman to have sex--the escalation of the relationship. If he isn't looking for long term that's where he'll cut it off. Another reason is he was in it for the challenge, the hunt, and the conquest. Once he's achieved his goal, he's ready to move on. He might want to stay around a bit longer, especially if the sex was good and the physical attraction is there, but again, he knows women usually make it mean something significant, and that's not what he wants. To be seduced by a woman is appealing but can be scary for a man. They say yes, but, just like women, they can feel used. They fear the pressure to perform, or fear the woman is after him for marriage and security. Some say it's okay to have sex on the third date, some say the fifth. Some much longer. There's no magic formula. Allow however much time it takes for both of you to feel comfortable.
Sex is a deeply personal way to connect with someone so be intelligent, know your own heart, know how easily you get involved and how easily you get hurt if you begin to care. Basically, be thoughtful and aware. 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets
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Warren Farrell says there are 150 opportunities for a man to be rejected from first eye contact to intercourse. Obviously, the sooner he has sex with a woman, the sooner that uncomfortable time of possible rejection is over.
