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The First Time, Yikes!
The first, and most important rule is don't ever, ever, ever have sex unless you want to, and never because you think it will help insure the furthering of a relationship. Generally, to have sex, most women need a man to care. If a woman isn't sure, she'll usually make up that he cares. False expectations get built up, and when she finds out he doesn't care, at least in the way she thought, she can be devastated. If you need a man to care before you have sex with him, then it's important to wait till you're certain he does.
Men not in committed relationships rarely turn down an opportunity to have sex. Even when they don't want to, the Macho Code frequently forces them to take advantage of most any opportunity, so they do it anyway. But if it's a woman a man is seriously interested in, he'll often be disappointed if she's to quick to have sex with him. He wonders if that's the way she was with other men. continued 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets
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When to have sex for the first time with a new person is always an interesting dilemma. There's so much involved in the decision: fear of pregnancy, fear of disease, fear of being labeled easy if your a woman, pushy if you're a man, fear that you won't click, fear that you won't measure up, fear that it means something and you're obligated to keep it moving forward, personal agendas of what you want it to mean, doing it because it's expected, and on and on.
