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The Luxury of Love Page 2
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship or a perfect man or woman. But there is such a thing as love and it doesn't have to die. But like any fire, if it doesn't get tended, watched over, given more fuel to burn, it will go out. Love isn't that easy to come by, especially love so strong that we actually want to marry someone. So how sad, when that love dies, especially if it is mostly because the relationship became less important than the job, the house, the social life, the shopping. Without love, life is lacking, like hearing a favorite love song, and having no one to ask to dance.
So make that list. Feel the feelings of love as you remember in vivid color, feel the emotions, and enjoy reliving the beginning of your love. Then share your best memories with your partner. Better yet, ask him to make a list of his own, then, on a special date or weekend away, share your memories. And don't be surprised that you have new memories to share.
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During some quiet time, write a description of the man you fell in love with. Focus on the things that you most admire, the things that made you tingle at the thought of him, the things you did together, and the things he did to you. Bring back the feelings you had when you were falling in love with him and you couldn't keep your mind off of him. Unless he's changed and is mistreating you, you can re-ignite those feelings of love. Think of the strongest trigger for you and lock that in as the thing that you will think about when you begin to get angry or frustrated at him, especially when it's over petty things. I always think about how my husband looked during our wedding ceremony. Melts my heart every time.
