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Relationship Tips
Don't Try to Change a Man Consider the levels of development of a child. You don't get frustrated with a one-year-old when he can't tell you what he wants because you know that is not in his skill set. You don't get mad at a five-year-old when she can't make her own dinner because she hasn't learned how. We don't get mad at children when they can't do certain things because we don't expect them to be able to do them. That same approach can be applied to male-female relationships. There is no need to get angry, sad or frustrated with a man for acting like a man. How else are they supposed to act? Instead, consider where their actions come from. Think of what it was like to grow up to be a man and what type of pressures and expectations society put on him. If you take the time to learn about men, you will most likely understand him better than he understands himself. And that puts you in a unique position to be in control of your relationship. Never try to change a man to fit your expectations. When you try to change a man, he will undoubtedly put up his defenses to protect himself. A man with his defenses up can never love you the way you want to be loved. You should be the safe haven for your man, the one place in the world where he can go to be completely open without fear of being attacked. If you are that place for your man, he will cherish you forever. To learn more about the nature of men, you should read Men Made Easy by Kara Oh. This book is for those who are truly interested in creating and maintaining exceptional relationships that last.
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The easiest thing you can do to have an exceptional relationship is to have realistic expectations. Having realistic expectations means understanding what a man has to offer you. So many times women are hurt or frustrated when men can't read their minds, don't perceive a problem, or don't share their feelings. These things upset women because they don't understand men. Rather than trying to understand why men think and behave the way they do, women often try to change them.
