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Communication That Reaches Into The Heart
But it's not how much is said, its the way things are said that matters. Women are often better communicators than men because men have been taught by society to keep their emotions inside. When they cried as a child, they were most likely told to "be a man," "big boys don't cry," "pick yourself up and get bak out there" . The repercussion of that kind of conditioning is that men don't usually share their emotions easily. Understanding this can help improve the communication in a relationship. You have to create an environment where your man feels free to share his emotions without you making him feel bad or wrong because of it. How To Get Him To Open Up Here is how you get a man to open up and share more of what's hidden safely in his heart. First, you need to pick a time when he's not doing anything. If he's reading the paper, he's doing something. So ask him if it's a good time for you to join him. Never, ever say "We need to talk." That will scare him because that usually means he's in trouble. If he says yes then with down with him and just chit-chat for a few minutes. Now for the experiment, ask him a not-too-scary question. Ask him what he likes best about his work, or what he enjoys best about
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We've heard it over and over, communication is one of the most important aspects of any successful relationship. Often women blame the the man for the lack of communication in their relationships. It's true, men don't generally have that much to say on the more heart-to-heart topics.
