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October 7 , 2007

Hi, it's Kara here,

In this issue:
1) A Lesson From a Gay Man
2) A Trick For Overcoming Shyness
3) Why Be Grateful?

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1) A Lesson From a Gay Man
I was at a fantastic workshop learning from my mentor, David Neagle, all week in Las Vegas. If there's anything you want and are ready to go for it, you should get David's CDs, "The Art of Success ". His the principles work for whatever you want, including a relationship. You just pay about $9 for the shipping.

Anyway, the most lovely gay couple was part of our group. The table was set up in a U-shape and once, when I looked across at them, one of them leaned over and ever-so-gently kissed his partner on the shoulder. I thought, "Wow, that's what most women want, a man that tender." My boyfriend does that sort of thing to me all the time and I realize that's one of the things that's so special about him. If you want your guy to show you those tender moments of love, just tell him how special it would make you feel if he did that kind of thing once in a while. Of course, it goes both ways. Find out what you can do to make him feel equally special. It probably won't be a tender kiss on the shoulder, but who knows. It's a conversation worth having.

2) A Trick For Overcoming Shyness
In the October 1st Bottom Line Personal the publisher, Margory Abrams, shared something she learned from Richard Kuepper, president of L.E.A.D. USA, LLC. His emphasis is to inspire people to go out of their comfort zone to grow and become more of what you want to be. To overcome shyness he recommends you "put 5 coins or paperclips in your pocket when you start your day. Then resolve to strike up a conversation with five new people–a fellow walker or commuter, the person behind you in line for coffee, etc. Every time you do this, move one coin or paper clip to the other pocket." As Maxwell Maltz points out in Psycho Cybernetics (everyone should read it), you can change a habit in 21 days. Just think, if you do this exercise for 21 days straight, you can change your habit of being afraid to talk to new people to being outgoing and enjoyable to be around. It certainly can't hurt you to give it a try.

3) Why Be Grateful?
It's strange, but one of the quickest ways to turn a sour, resentful, or angry attitude around is to start a regular practice of being grateful. As I fall asleep I have developed the habit of making a list of what I'm grateful for. It's a wonderful way to relax into slumber. Then I wake up excited to get on with the day. Maybe you'd feel more inclined to journal what you're grateful for. If you struggle with keeping a positive attitude or find you get angry or upset way too much, give this a try and see what happens. Again, 21 days straight and you change or develop a new habit.

Until next time, I wish you mountains of love, romance, and happiness.

With much love,

"Celebrate Life–Be Happy!"

Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™
P.O. Box 21803
Santa Barbara, CA 93121
Ph: 805-687-2448

~ If you haven't read Men Made Easy there are things about men you need to know. You can order here.

~ If you want to bring more life and love to your marriage you'll want to take a look at Marriage Made Easy.

~ And if you want your man to learn how to treat you like a queen you'll want him to read Women Made Easy.

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