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AliveWithLove.com Home Only subscribers to the newsletter have access to this page. November - 2005 Hi all, I'm so happy to be connecting with you again. As always, I wish you much joy, love, happiness, and a sense of wonder that you are a magnificent human on this beautiful planet. Don't Throw Him Away: A Good Man Is Worth a Lot In this month's newsletter I want to focus on a really important topic. I got the inspiration when I was listening to a Dr. Laura show. A woman, let's call her Carol, had written Dr. Laura a nice long email explaining that a friend, (we'll call her Sue) whom she had gone to high school with and watched get married, proceeded, practically from the day after the wedding, to trash her husband, (we'll call Ted). Sue complained every time they were together. She complained about what a bad lover Ted was, how rude and inconsiderate a person he was, how lazy he was, how bad a provider he was, and on-and-on. Carol said she never said a word, just politely listened for several years. Well, Sue finally dumped Ted. After a time Carol and Ted met at a function, began talking, and then started dating. Then they got married. She said he was the kindest, most considerate, most adoring man she had ever met. That he was a considerate, gentle lover who loved to please her. She also said that he went out of his way to make her happy at every opportunity. Dr. Laura's comment was that one woman's trash was another woman's treasure and... Yes, Throw Him Away: Don't Make Excuses For Bad Behavior This was amazing to me when I heard it on Dr. Laura. A young woman called in and wondered how she could help her boyfriend find a good therapist. It turned out that he beat her up and she wanted to help him "work through his issues". I was... Men Made Easy finally available in CD - Special Price For You! Several years ago I hired someone to sit in his studio and record me reading my book. For some really stupid reason that I can't fathom, I have let the casettes sit for all this time. Well, I finally got them made into CDs (which took absolutely no time at all, duh!) and they are available. For you, the price is $39.95 plus $5 shipping. The entire book is set up on 4 CDs and, if I do say so myself, it sounds really good. I've always disliked my voice but doing the recording in a fancy studio really made a difference. I'm very please with the finished product. So if you are interested in purchasing a set you can click here. Relax the Bride My daughter is a hypnotherapist here in Santa Barbara and when she was planning her wedding, she found she was getting more and more stressed. So she decided to create a calming hypnosis tape that would help her relax. It was so helpful that she gave it to a couple of friends who were also planning their weddings. They loved it! Consequently, she turned it into something that can be purchased from her website. If you or a friend or daughter is stressing out while they plan their wedding, you might like to get this as a gift. You can find out about it here. The graphic on the CD and on the CD case is Amber and Dan on the beach, right after their wedding. It's my favorite photo of them and apparently, theirs too. I Need Some Help I have several testimonials on my MenMadeEasyEbook.com description page and would love to have photos to go with them. If you are one who has sent me a testimonial, maybe you could send a photo to me and let me know which is your testimonial. Or, if you have read Men Made Easy and have some great things to say, especially how your relationship has improved, you could send that with a photo. You can send it to Dating tip: This quote says it all: "Just about everyone I know hates dating. People are confused about what to bring-an accountant, a lawyer, an interpreter, or a resume. Sadly, we often forget to bring ourselves." --Greg Potter Marriage tip: Explore one of the most bothersome differences between you. You know, the one that causes you to argue, or get your feelings hurt. Talk to each other about how your different way of doing something or interpreting a situation, or whatever it happens to be, came from your childhood, as a coping mechanism, or simply how your family did it. See if you can work out a way to better understand that all it is is a different way of being. Then, make a pact that the next time it comes up, you'll stop and talk about it before it escalates into a problem. If you do this with loving compassion for each other, it will deepen your intimacy and bring you closer. Chris and I have done this on many topics and we feel like it is a big part of why we are experiencing so much love for each other. I'd love to hear from any of you who find this helpful. Health Tip: I have been able to keep my weight where I want it by using a wonderful product. It not only helps me lose weight and keep it off, it also makes me feel great. It helps alkalize your ph, which is what you want for optimal health and longevity. Most of what we eat (processed, animal, carbohydrate-except fruit), and our negative thoughts, worries, and fears, causes us to be acidic, which is really bad for your body. The product is called Alka Slim and it's available here. This page also explains what the alkaline/acid thinking is all about. I use Alka Slim in place of one meal when I'm maintaining and if I've been overindulgent, I use it in place of two meals to lose those new pounds that crept onto my thighs and hips. I've got my boyfriend and his housekeeper on it and they both say they feel better eating it. This month's joke: The Hearing Test A mature gentleman of 77 feared his wife was getting hard of hearing. So one day he called her doctor to make an appointment to have her hearing checked. The doctor made an appointment for a hearing test in two weeks, and told him of a simple informal test that he could give her so that he (the doctor) would have an idea of the severity of her problem. Here's what you do," said the doctor, "start out about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response." That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he's in the living room. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens." Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for supper?" No response. So the husband moved to the other end of the room, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for supper?" Still no response. Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, "Honey, what's for supper?" Again he gets no response. So he walks up to the kitchen door, only 10 feet away. "Honey, what's for supper?" Again there is no response. So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for supper?" "Damn it, Earl, for the fifth time, CHICKEN!" Please feel free to forward this to all of your online friends. With much love, The most remarkable thing about my mother is that for thirty years she served the family nothing but leftovers. The original meal has never been found. --Calvin Trillin Your e-mail address will never be sold or shared with anyone. Your personal information will always be kept strictly confidential. Kara Oh is the author of Past issues menu here Kara Oh "We're here to make you happy."
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