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AliveWithLove.com Home Only subscribers to the newsletter have access to this page. March - 2004 This Month's Issue Includes:
1. Radio Interview The unexamined life is not worth living. Socrates (470-399 B.C.) 1. MARK YOUR CALENDAR FOR MY RADIO INTERVIEW Vivica Stone, producer and co-host of the Get Ready For Love radio show, recently invited me to join her on March 18th. Our topic will be: Love is easy?!? It should be lots of fun. Usually, whenever I do a radio show, it’s only available in one city. Because this one is on the internet, you can all listen. My segment will be from 8-9 PM, PST. You can learn more about Get Ready For Love here. You can even listen to past shows in the archives. 2. MY BIRTHDAY IS MARCH 14TH For most of my life, I’ve preferred to pretty much ignore my birthday. Not because I don’t like getting older but because I didn’t want anyone making a fuss over me. In my years of self-discovery I learned that my core belief about myself is that “I’m a bother.” So my birthday pushed those “buttons” big time. Well, over the past several years, as I’ve ripened into the juicy tomato that I’ve become, I’ve learned to love my birthday. I tell everyone on that day that it’s my birthday. The check-out lady, the water delivery man, the waitress. And do you know what their response is? “Happy Birthday!” They’re always happy for me. And we both get to smile. What a change from hiding out all those years. So I’m going over to Ojai on Friday to be with my friends because they want to celebrate with me and my daughter is having a family get-to-gether on Sunday. Why do I tell you this? Because I want to inspire you to make self-discovery a part of your ever evolving life. Self-discovery showed me the core of my insecurities and continued self-discovery has allowed me to become a better, happier, more juicy woman. It’s the most important “work” you can do in this life because it is the key to your growing ability to be happy and fulfilled. And a happy, fulfilled woman is a woman whose capacity to love and be loved is boundless. I invite you to begin a daily gift to yourself by checking in with your Inner Wise Woman. Ask her for advice and wisdom and you’ll surprise yourself. If you haven’t looked at it lately, here’s the process that will open the doors to your true self. click here 3. WOMEN FRIENDS! In Men Made Easy I talk about the importance of girlfriends. Too often, we expect our husband or boyfriend to fulfil our every need. But there is one need that only women friends can satisfy. That’s the sharing and heart-to-heart connecting with someone who understands you. Because men and women are so very different, in every way, including how we see the world, only another woman can truly understand when we share our deepest heart’s longings, hurts, and desires. And the laughter that women share is different than with a man. There’s a depth of knowing and connection that is so important to our psyches. So if you haven’t been making time to be with friends, pick up the phone and set a date. And if you don’t have a circle of friends, get out there and meet women. Just like trying to find a man, it’s a numbers game. Not all women are going to be friends, just as not all men are candidates for a relationship. And the discovery process is so fun. I recently met a woman who ordered my book. It turned out that she lives in Santa Barbara so we made a date for dinner. We’ve gotten together three times and she’s a delight. And she’s introduced me to some of her friends and we had a great time discussing, guess what?, “MEN!” Women. They’re great. 4. THE UGLIES In my book (Men Made Easy) I talk about Feminine Grace. That boils down to being beautiful in how you interact with others. The opposite of that is to be ugly. I recently saw a woman berating her husband and kids in the supermarket. I was so embarrassed for her. Whenever I see bad behaviour in public, I always wonder how much worse it is in private. This woman was the epitome of Ugly. It’s funny. When a woman doesn’t have a man, or she wants the man she has to marry her, she’s all honey and spice. But somewhere along the way, after she’s married, she turns into the B word. Doesn’t she value her marriage? Doesn’t she value her family unity? Doesn’t she realize that he’s likely to walk away from her, leaving her stranded? Most people don’t take the time to nurture their relationship, it’s true. But to actually threaten it on a daily basis by being ugly is beyond my comprehension. So take a look at your behaviour. Are you being beautiful or ugly? Beautiful gets you where you want to go, ugly does not. As they say: You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. If you haven’t read the chapter on Feminine Grace, or maybe not lately, I invite you to do so here. 5. ATTITUDE - BE INSPIRED The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and make-up perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she manoeuvred her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. “Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room .... just wait.” “That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged... it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it .. “It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away ... just for this time in my life. Old age is like a bank account ... you withdraw from what you’ve put in .. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories. Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing. Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred. 6. THE OSTRICH - A CUTE JOKE A man walks into a restaurant with a full-grown ostrich behind him. As he sits, the waitress comes over and asks for their orders. The man says, “I’ll have a hamburger, fries and a coke,” and turns to the ostrich, “What’s yours?” “I’ll have the same,” says the ostrich. A short time later the waitress returns with the order. “That will be $6.40 please,” and the man reaches into his pocket and pulls out the exact change for payment. The next day, the man and the ostrich come again and the man says, “I’ll have a hamburger, fries and a coke,” and the ostrich says, “I’ll have the same.” Once again the man reaches into his pocket and pays with exact change. This becomes a routine until late one evening, the two enter again. “The usual?” asks the waitress. “No, this is Friday night, so I will have a steak, baked potato and salad,” says the man, “same for me,” says the ostrich. A short time later the waitress comes with the order and says, That will be $12.62.” Once again the man pulls exact change out of his pocket and places it on the table. The waitress can’t hold back her curiosity any longer. “Excuse me, sir. How do you manage to always come up with the exact change out of your pocket every time?” “Well,” says the man, “several years ago I was cleaning the attic and I found an old lamp. When I rubbed it a Genie appeared and offered me two wishes. My first wish was that if I ever had to pay for anything, I would just put my hand in my pocket and the right amount of money would always be there.” “That’s brilliant!” says the waitress. “Most people would wish for a million dollars or something, but you’ll always be as rich as you want for as long as you live!” “That’s right. Whether it’s a gallon of milk or a Rolls Royce, the exact money is always there,” says the man. The waitress asks, “One other thing, sir, what’s with the ostrich?” The man sighs, pauses, and answers, “My second wish was for a tall chick with long legs who agrees with everything I say.”
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