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February 14, 2007

Hi all, Kara here,

Only one article in this issue:

What a Man Can Learn When Ring Shopping

As those of you who have been with me for the past couple of years know, I've been involved with a wonderful man. He makes me feel like a goddess and I feel like the luckiest woman on the planet. We've been discussing marriage and when we were skiing in Aspen I told him I'd been looking at rings. I'd told him that I wanted a romantic proposal (not sky writing, just something meaningful between us), that I wanted it to be a surprise, but that I wanted input on the ring. He said that he thought he could pull that off, that he'd successfully done so before.

I told him I had been looking for rings, and that it made me nervous to tell him. He made me feel good about it when he said it made him happy to know that I'd been looking. When he was in Santa Barbara this weekend I asked him if he would like to see the ring I liked. He said absolutely. So we went to the jewelry store and he really liked the ring I'd fallen in love with and completely understood why I chose it. Now he knows what I want and he can surprise me when he's ready.

Now to the reason I'm telling you about this. The next morning at breakfast I told him how special he made me feel when we were at the jewelry store. He said a man can learn a lot about a woman when he takes her ring shopping. He'd done it twice before and both times were enlightening. I said, "Tell me about this, it's something new for me to understand about men and women." So he explained the following:
1. She reveals whether she's more interested in getting the ring than in the man she's wanting to marry.
2. She reveals her self-centeredness when she's only interested in what she wants and doesn't consider what he might like.
3. She reveals her level of materialism when she's focused on how expensive and impressive the ring is.
4. She reveals her level of consideration for him and how much he might have to spend. Even an inexpensive diamond ring is expensive.

I thought this was very insightful of Chris, but this didn't surprise me. He's unbelievably thoughtful and aware. So my message to you, at this time when some of you might be getting Valentine's gifts later today is, what will he learn about you in the process of receiving his token of love? Will you be gracious, no matter what he places before you? I hope so, no matter what the gift might be. Remember that he's scared by this holiday more than any other, Christmas and your birthday coming close behind. He's scared he'll get it wrong and upset you. So be kind.

For those of you who don't have a Valentine this year, I hope that very soon, you meet that special someone who sees who you really are and wants to cherish you as much as you deserve.

With much love,
Kara

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Kara Oh is the author of
Men Made Easy
Marriage Made Easy
Women Made Easy
How To Capture His Heart (A dating guide - coming soon)

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Kara Oh
P.O. Box 21803
Santa Barbara, CA 93121
805-687-2448