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AliveWithLove.com Home December 1st , 2007 Hi all, it's Kara here, It's been a while and I apologize for that. I've just been so focused on developing my new web site, DatingSuccessTechnology.com, that I'm having trouble finding time for anything else. If I could figure out a way to work without sleeping, right now, I'd do it in a heartbeat. In this issue: 1) Jump Start Your Heart™ When people tell me, "They won't let me get too close because they've been hurt. So I'm just being patient." Both men and women say this to me, but more often it's women saying it about men. If you're already enjoying a certain level of love and openness, great. Just keep opening to each other more and more. But if you're frustrated, and it's been a short time that you've known each other and you know it's time that things moved up to a deeper level of caring, then that's the time to decide if you want to continue with that person. Sometimes – dare I say often – men use this as a way to not get too deeply involved. I'd love to poll a good number of men who say this and find out if it's that their hearts got broken or if their wallet got cleaned out in a messy divorce. That would be more understandable than avoiding love. But if you're enjoying a relationship where love is flourishing, it can always get better. If your partner is willing, it's a wonderful process to share if you will sit together, either face-to -face or side-by-side, and with closed eyes, imagine the love energy emanating from your heart to your partner's. Imagine a flow of energy traveling back and forth between each other's hearts. If you do this together, you will be shocked and amazed at how much more love you're able to experience. If your partner is not willing, then if you do it on your own, you'll at least feel more love for your partner. It's just so much more powerful if you do it together. If you're dating different people this process can allow you to get past the surface "wrapping" so that you can find the "gift" that is within. As long as the "ick factor" isn't in play, then how tall, rich, fat, skinny or tantalizing someone is should be secondary to how it feels to connect with their heart. Even if there's no real attraction, at least you can enjoy a heartfelt experience with a fellow traveler who is searching for love... just like you. 2) Fear Of Failing Can Keep Us From Succeeding The reason I'm writing about this topic is inspired by Martha Beck, a life coach who has a regular column in Oprah Magazine. She made a comment that is so huge that I couldn't just leave it alone. I had to share it with you: "The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people fail more." What does that mean? Like I said above, you need to take a risk... in this case, a risk of opening your heart. Sure you can get hurt, but isn't the possibility of success worth it? And the bigger risk you take, the greater possibility of failure AND success. So I say, take the risk and go for the success. If you fail, just like Thomas Edison said, "Well, that one more thing that didn't work." The only time you blow it is when you shrink back, vowing not to try something like that again AND/OR you don't learn from each failure. You see, there's no such thing as a failure if you learn from it because when you learn from it it's a wonderful life lesson. Everything we do is an opportunity to learn. And with each thing we learn, the better we get. Better at handling life, at loving, at opening to receiving another's love, at making money, at making friends... you name it. Our job, whether you know it or not, whether you accept it or not, is to become the very best people we can be while we are on this amazing ride on a planet that is spinning 1000 mph and traveling through space at 67,000 mph! Don't you think that's fantastic? Don't you think your life is fantastic? Then get out there and make the very most of it. Love with abandon, take risks, be willing to fail because with each and every failure you get to be that much smarter, that much better, that much more lovable. 3) Launch Date Set For DatingSuccessTechnology.com If you're married or in a committed relationship, the next thing I'll be working on is the Committed Couples Support Center. Dating advice is different than committed couple advice and I want to be able to offer richer, more focused advice to both groups. You'll get an opportunity soon to sign up for the Committed Couples newsletter in January. 4) I'm Taking Down My Other Web Sites That's it for now. I hope you will take a risk and open you heart to life, to love, to possibilities you don't yet know exist. With much love,
"Celebrate Life–Be Happy!" Kara Oh ~ If you haven't read Men Made Easy there are things about men you need to know. You can order here. ~ If you want to bring more life and love to your marriage you'll want to take a look at Marriage Made Easy. ~ And if you want your man to learn how to treat you like a queen you'll want him to read Women Made Easy. How To Capture His Heart (A dating guide - coming soon) Feel free to pass this newsletter on to your friends but please copy in it's entirety. Copyright© December, 2007 Your e-mail address will never be sold or shared with anyone. Your personal information will always be kept strictly confidential. Past issues menu here "Celebrate Life -- Be Happy."
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