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December - 2004

Hi all, Kara here,

What a year it’s been. I bought a new home in Santa Barbara, did an amazing remodel (anyone wanting to see photos can write to me for the URL), met a group of women who have become a close circle of love, lost the 25 pounds of “unhappy” fat I had gained in my brief but stupid marriage, finally started dating after being divorced a year and a half, and just this week launched my second book. I can’t wait to see what this next year has in store for me. I hope your 2005 will be grander, and more glorious than you can imagine.

This Month's Issue Includes:

1. Live and Learn.
2. A Bazillion Ways To Say “I Love You”
3. What a Dog Can Teach You.
4. How I Lost 20 Pounds In 6 Weeks.
5. Why Bikers Should Wear Black.

1. LIVE AND LEARN.

Occasionally, I go to a church called Center of the Heart. It’s multi-denominational and the reverend, Karen Weingard, is called The Sparkle Lady. She wears an evening gown, long gloves, dangly earrings, rhinestones hanging from her hair, and, of course, glitter all over. She makes me laugh, cry, and everything in between. But mostly, she makes me think. Recently she said, “Every experience propels you toward your highest and best good.” And I believe it’s absolutely true.

For most of my adult life I’ve believed that everything we go through has the potential to teach us to become our truest, highest, and best selves. Even the stuff that hurts. Actually, because we tend to drift through the good times, we usually only pay attention when something bad is happening. So why not turn it from bad to good?

If you’re in the middle of a trying experience, ask your higher self what you are supposed to be learning. There are always lessons, sometimes lots, and the more you are hurting, usually the greater the opportunity to learn.

If you have gone through heartaches in the past, you can revisit those experiences and discover the lessons that are buried within them, even after many years. It helps make it worthwhile to have had to endure those difficulties. Of course, it isn’t essential to go through tough times to grow, but the tough times would be such a waste (because, after all, they're gonna happen anyway) if we didn’t get something good out of each and every one of them.

So next time you’re in the midst of a difficult situation, turn it around and ask yourself what good you are supposed to be harvesting. It will help you trust that you will get through it, and come out the other end a better, stronger, and even happier person.

2. A BAZILLION WAYS TO SAY “I LOVE YOU”

If you’re ready to give your relationship a shot in the arm, you’re going to love my new book. I just launched it this week. Actually, it’s two books because I wrote his and hers versions. I was struggling with the gender thing (trying to write to both women and men) and I got the great idea to write two books. That way, you can download both versions and send his to him in an email.

The best part about these ebooks is my exclusive RPL Technology of Love Enhancement™. It’s the thing that takes this set of books from being just a lot of fun tips to profound, life altering relationship help. The beauty of it is that your husband or boyfriend will want to do this with you. As you have probably already discovered, most relationship books are poo-pooed by the guys. This one he’ll like.

I’ve decided to offer these books to my newsletter people for a much lower price. So DON’T use the description page to order. Instead, go here to a special page I set up just for you: Click here. But first, read all about it here. As always, it’s guaranteed so you’ll for sure want to give it a whirl. I think you’re going to just love it. As you’ll see, the feedback so far has been terrific.

3. WHAT A DOG CAN TEACH YOU.

I thought this was important enough to share with you. If you follow this advice, your life is very likely to be a whole lot easier, less hectic, and more fun.

If a dog was the teacher, you’d learn stuff like:

1. When loved ones come home, always run to greet them
   
2. Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joy-ride.
   
3. Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
   
4. When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience.
   
5. Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory.
   
6. Take naps.
   
7. Stretch before rising.
   
8. Run, romp, and play daily.
   
9. Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
   
10. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
    
11. On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
    
12. On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
    
13. When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
    
14. No matter how often you’re scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout...run right back and make friends.
    
15. Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
    
16. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.
    
17. Be loyal. Never pretend to be something you’re not.
    
18. If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
    
19. When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.

This was one of those items that was sent to me in an email. It’s cute, but if you really study each item, there’s much truth. If you actually followed this advice, you’d have more energy, more fun, and more love in your life.

4. HOW I LOST 20 POUNDS IN 6 WEEKS.

I’ve mentioned before that I’ve been struggling to lose what I call the “unhappy fat” I gained during my stupid 4 year marriage. During all that time, and since I left him, I’ve worked out three days a week and gone for long walks most other days. But still, the weight didn’t come off. Finally, several things clicked and I began to shed the unwanted pounds. I’m fitting into my size fours, albeit snugly, but before, I couldn’t even get them on. And I’m feeling so much better, in every way.

So here’s what I've been doing:

1. I work out at Golds Gym on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
   
2. I walk on the other days...usually..
   
3. On November 10th, Dr. Perricone was on Oprah. He told her that if she started drinking green tea instead of coffee, she’d lose ten pounds in a month. I decided to try it.
   
4. At the same time I started drinking the Super Dieters Tea that I found when I was searching for my green tea. It’s a Laci Le Beau product. If you can’t find it in your health food store, go here.
   
5. I had already pretty much dropped all sugar and processed carbohydrates from my diet. But now that teaspoon of sugar and 1/3 cup of whole milk was a thing of the past.
   
6. My carbohydrates consist of a corn tortilla that I cook in a little butter with a egg that I make into a folded-over sandwich for breakfast...
   6a. ...along with a salad with a lot of crunchies, like chopped carrots, celery, red pepper, and cucumber. I think the crunchy stuff in my salad satiates my desire for other crunchy stuff, which usually consists of bad carbos.
   
7. I simply don’t buy any processed food. My carbos are fruit.
   
8. There’s no dairy in the frig except some non-fat jalapeno cheese that I put on that really thin dark bread from the cold case with mustard, and a slice of tomato.
   
9. I include protein in each meal, with an egg for breakfast. I cycle between salmon, Trader Joe’s Turkey Meatballs, and rotisserie chicken from the market for lunch and dinner. I like my own cooking too much to stop with one helping.
   
10. I steam fresh veggies with a touch of virgin olive oil (you need a good oil in each meal) and Lawry's Garlic Pepper.
    
11. For my sweet tooth I heat some chunky apple sauce with apricots, no sugar. Heating it makes it seem like dessert.
    
12. Oh yeah, I also eat at least one of those little things of fresh blueberries every day. And in the evening, sometimes I slightly heat frozen blueberries for a desert.
    
13. And the final trick I do is I got my mind to see any transgression as something that would keep me from my goal. It has all come together to make the weight drop off. It helps that I live along but anyone can do it if they do that trick with their mind.

My girlfriend is on a new diet and she sees those transgressions as rewards, which, need I point out, means that the healthy eating that she should be doing anyway, is punishment. An attitude that is waiting to fail. My goal is winning and so am I. Maybe my program will help some of you.

5. WHY BIKERS SHOULD WEAR BLACK.

This was sent to me by a friend and I laughed so hard that I scared my cat. I hope you get as good a laugh out of it as I did.

Click here to see why bikers should wear black.

Again, I wish you an amazing new year and hope that it is filled with much love and dreams come true.

Feel free to pass this email on to your girlfriends (but please include credit to Kara Oh and AliveWithLove.com) but be sure to get their permission first. I don't ever want to be associated with unsolicited email.

Joyfully yours,
Kara

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Kara Oh is the author of
Men Made Easy
Marriage Made Easy
Women Made Easy
How To Capture His Heart (A dating guide - coming soon)

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Kara Oh
P.O. Box 21803
Santa Barbara, CA 93121
805-687-2448