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August 17, 2007

Hi all, it's Kara here,

In this issue:
1) Consistency Creates Trust
2) "You Idiot..." vs. Faminine Grace
3) The Saga of My Engagement Ring
4) Dating Basics Teleseminar

1) Consistency
I was listening to a speaker on the business topic of team building. And, as my mind tends to work, I wandered over to how it applied in the dating and relationship arena. They were talking about consistency and how important it is for building trust. If you look at romantic relationships, inconsistency can be a deal breaker. If your partner can't count on how you're going to react, if they're always guessing as to whether something is going to make you happy or set you into frightening tirade, they're not going to be able to relax and allow their heart to meld with yours. And it's impossible to create love without that happening. So notice where you're not being consistent. If you're in a relationship talk about it together and vow to improve how you respond and communicate with each other. When you learn to count on each other you develop more trust so you can enjoy the delicious ecstasy of two hearts melding.

2) "You Idiot..." vs. Feminine Grace
I was driving the other day and someone did something really stupid. I started to get upset then decided that I didn't want to be upset. So as I was beginning to say a bunch of very naughty things, I changed to a silly, baby voice and began to say the same things in a sing-song way. My energy shifted immediately and I was able to instantly let go of my anger and frustration.

Then a few days later someone cut me off in a dangerous way. I got angry, noticed that I could let it go, but decided instead to keep the feelings around a bit longer. Because I was noticing how I was feeling I did calm down a bit, but because I didn't go into my normal habit of shifting my energy over to a happy state, I noticed that I really did feel bad for a while. Finally, I did my Emotional Happy Dance and let it go so that I could feel good.

Feminine Grace is about being and doing what is beautiful and in being in charge of your emotional state you are empowered. Getting angry is not beautiful, it makes you feel crummy, and you're being ugly when it's going on. You have control over your emotions. I invite you to practice doing an Emotional Happy Dance of your own the next opportunity you have.

3) The Saga Of My Engagement Ring
I'm sharing all this with you because it makes it more fun to think that some of you are cheering me on. So, the man who will be building the ring I designed sent us a computer generated image of what the ring (without stones) will look like. It looked like an undersea monster. Really grotesque with red where the platinum would be and blue where the diamond will be and really long red prongs that will be cut off after they're bent over the diamonds. No way could we have him go ahead based on that ugly thing. Monday morning, from 2:30 to 5:30 a.m. I laid awake thinking about the ring (and also about the seminar I'm designing). I called the man on the phone Monday morning and after telling him my concerns he said I'd better come down to his shop in downtown LA. A yucky drive but too important not to do it. I tried on the blue wax mold and it is going to be really beautiful. it will be ready next week. The next step is for Chris to pick up the ring. After that I have to wait until he decides to present it to me. I hope he doesn't wait too long.

4) Dating Basics Teleseminar
Paige Grant, my partner, and I have been fine tuning the class that we'll be offering in September. The goal will be to teach you how to turn on the power of your heart. Next week we'll have an outline for you so you can see all that we'll be covering. We're going to focus on what you need to do to be better prepared to find a great partner and then develop a relationship that is more satisfying than anything either of you have ever known. By the way, we're offering a men's course as well.

Until next time, I'm wishing you mountains of love, romance, and happiness.

With much love,

"Celebrate Life–Be Happy!"

Kara Oh
P.O. Box 21803
Santa Barbara, CA 93121
Ph: 805-687-2448

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~ And if you want your man to learn how to treat you like a queen you'll want him to read Women Made Easy.

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