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AliveWithLove.com Home Only subscribers to the newsletter have access to this page. August - 2002 This Month's Issue Includes:
1. Girlfriend Time Dear AliveWithLove visitors, I hope your summer has been enjoyable thus far. I live in sunny California and it has been beautiful. I put on a family reunion for 45 with lots of remodeling activity prior to the 4th of July event so I’ve not put out a newsletter for a while. Plus, I’ve had my grandson here during the week for the past several weeks. I adore him and like spending time with him so it has been almost impossible to get much done on my computer. Next week is his last before he goes back to school. I’ll miss him but I’m looking forward to getting back to several interesting projects. 1. Girlfriend Time Yesterday I ran into a friend and he said something that I just had to share with you. He told that in the morning his girlfriend (a good friend of mine) needs to do a lot of talking, whereas he is more inclined to be quiet, going about his morning activities like shaving, etc. One morning she was going on and on (“like she always does” and all of a sudden she said, “Are you paying attention to what I’m saying?” and he said, “No, do you need me to?” She began to get angry but then realized that she really didn’t and they had a good laugh about it. I know this man really well and if she had said that she did need him to pay attention, he would probably have asked her to hold her thoughts until he was done getting ready and then sat down with her to listen fully. He’s an exceptional and unique kind of man but it leads into a nice discussion of how very different men and women are. For those who have not read my book, one of the things I really encourage is the nurturing of girlfriends. Mostly because of the description of my friends interaction with his girlfriend. Women are interested in telling and listening to all the little details that make up our lives. Men are not. How many of you have ever had a man say, “Can you just get to the point?” That IS the point. Women don’t need to get to the point because the sharing of words is more a matter of bonding and connecting on an emotional level than it is sharing ideas. Men want the facts...period. So give your girlfriend a call and make a lunch date. Your spirit and soul needs it. 2. What’s the Point of a Spiritual Path? Speaking of spirit and soul, I was thinking the other day: What’s the point of a spiritual path? Where is it supposed to take you? Some talk about enlightenment, some talk about nirvana. But those things are hard to come by, and even when you get there, they are fleeting, momentary. I changed the name of my web site from AlluringYou to Alive With Love for several reasons but one was to add a spiritual section. It is an important part of my journey and I wanted to share with others in a hope that I will inspire you to want to enhance the spiritual side of your being. I’ve spent a lot of time, study, money, and energy getting to where I am today but the journey has been haphazard, which, come to think of it, has made it tremendously interesting for me. But where, I’ve been wondering, has it gotten me? I’d like to share what I came up with with you so you might glean some benefit. Go to: spiritual you. 3. Do You Know How Wise You Are? There are also some new articles in the Wise You section. One on affirmations might give you some inspiration to try it; there’s some poems by Lao Tzu that apparently wasn’t linked, and one on inner strength. You can get to the main Wise you page here: wise you. 4. A Blatant Sales Pitch! For those of you who have not read Men Made Easy, you may not know that there is a Yahoo! Men Made Easy online women’s support group. I’m a silent member and rarely participate because I don’t want to disturb the dynamics of the women being full participants. I do get the postings and I am so impressed with the group. Such love, support and wisdom. When a member needs advice they are right there, to help in any way they can. If you have read my book but haven’t joined the group, I would highly recommend it. Katherine, who calls herself kateshadowwoman, started the group and must be very proud. I know I am. Here is a posting from one of the members who gave me permission to pass it along. It made me cry when I read it because it is such a confirmation that the time I spend sharing with others is worth it. Here’s what she wrote to the group, then passed her sentiments along to me in an email:
I am soooooo happy! It just dawned on me how much my SO has improved since I read and applied Kara’s techniques (3 months or so). He is less moody, doesn’t go into those “I need my space” funks for days like he used to (now it’s one evening of “I need to watch TV in the other room, ok?” and then back to cuddle time!). He professes his love for me more often and has even said the things I’ve longed to hear, “you are my destiny, my goddess, you helped me to live again!” When he said those things, I almost cried. This was two days ago and I’m still in shock and on cloud nine! Ladies, I say, read Kara’s book a few times over if you need to and live it! My relationship has become something of my dreams that I thought would never come true. If it can happen for me it can happen for you. I swear, I have not been paid nor do I work for Kara Oh! To learn more about my book, click here. I am hypersensitive not to sell my book too hard, but often, I think I err in the opposite direction. So here it is, a blatant pitch for you to purchase my book. That wasn’t so hard but my pitts are itchy, which is the same thing that happens when I almost get into a car accident. :-) Please feel free to forward this to all of your online friends.
Joyfully, ”Shame is the feeling you have when you agree with the woman who loves you that you are the man she thinks you are.” -- Carl Sandburg Your e-mail address will never be sold or shared with anyone. Your personal information will always be kept strictly confidential. Kara Oh is the author of Past issues menu here Kara Oh "We're here to make you happy."
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