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You're Ready To Get Married But He Isn't... What's Going On? Page 2
1. He's not ready. 2. You're not the right one. That's it, there only two. You could be the right one, but if he's not ready, he's very likely to let you go. He may come back, but by then, you've continued with your quest and found a man who is ready. You see, men don't fantasize about getting married. They know it will happen one day, as part of the process of growing up. But they usually don't want to rush it unless they're the type that lives in the moment and doesn't pay much attention to the consequences of their actions. Most men are outward; they set and achieve goals, solve problems, accomplish things in the world. They don't sit around and daydream about what life will be like when they're married. They're too focused on being successful and creating security for the future. It's the hunter instinct. Plan ahead and make sure everyone is safe and well-fed. If either of those things aren't handled, he's considered a failure. Not okay for a hunter. That's why most men need to have a secure, stable job before they "take the plunge."
So when a man gets old enough to think maybe he should start considering settling down, getting married and having a family, it's a nuts-and-bolts decision, not a fantasy-come-true. Yes, he likes being married, likes the home a wife creates, his stature that grows among his peers and in his community and the stability it brings. But he also sees marriage as the time he gives up his freedom. continued
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In my research for my book, I discovered the two reasons that a man doesn't get married:
