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Love, What's the Right Way?
Everyone has their own best way of expressing and experiencing love. Men are often uncomfortable with strong emotions, partly because they have been conditioned to avoid them. Men can fall pretty hard when they do allow themselves to love, and that often scares them. Some even say they feel they will lose themselves if they love too freely. So, often they keep themselves under control. Your partner may have a way of expressing love to you which is too subtle for you to notice. Or, maybe it's in a form that you don't automatically respond to because it's not your best way to receive love. Most people give love in the way they would like to receive it. And they way people learn to give and receive love has a lot do to with how they learned it in their families. If you were held a lot but never were told with words that you were loved, then you probably need touching more than the words "I love you." He's the same way.
So, in order to better receive his love, when you know your man is feeling particularly comfortable with you, ask him: "When you're experiencing the strongest feelings of love for me, in what way do you usually express it?" continued
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"Your primary sense of self is through your relationships--as a mother, a friend, and a wife and lover; his is his success as a man." 