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Ten Tips For Getting Your Man To Commit by George Weinberg Ph. D., author of Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games Page 2
Early in the relationship, avoid asking him resume questions. Look out for questions like, "How much do you make?" "Did you go to college?" "Where?" "Were you ever married" "For how long?" "What do your parents do for a living?" These questions suggest that you are sizing him up and deciding if he is a good risk as a potential husband. Remember, even if he turns out to be a billionaire, he needs to know that you liked him before you knew that fact.
Ask instead what he feels about things, what he likes and dislikes. If he says he just got a big bonus, don't ask him how much it was. Talk about how exciting it must be. "Did you know it was coming?" "Did all your friends congratulate you?" Enjoy his experience with him. He'll tell you everything after a while unless he is very secretive, which would be a bad sign. You know that you don't like to be quizzed. He likes it even less. Let him know that you care about him, not about what he represents or the category he is in, and he will feel special. Keep it personal, as opposed to factual. continued
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