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Ten Tips For Getting Your Man To Commit by George Weinberg Ph. D., author of Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games
Here are 10 tips for getting your man to commit: 1) Make it easy for him to confide in you by listening without giving him advice or criticizing him.
He needs to know that it's safe to tell you more. And the more he tells you, the more committed he will become. For instance, suppose he tells you that he feels bad about not being a college graduate. Just listen and make clear that you love him as much as if he had a Ph.D from Harvard. If he tells you that he's worried about losing his job, just listen and make clear that you will love him just as much if he does. The time for advice may come later, when he asks for it -- if he ever does. But right now, advice is not what he needs. He needs you. continued
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You've been seeing a man who loves you, whether he uses the word or not. He loves sex with you, but more than that, he loves being with you. Even so, he hasn't committed himself to you fully. Perhaps he's still vague about weekend plans, or he hasn't introduced you to his friends. Maybe he hasn't asked you to marry him, though you've been seeing each other steadily or living together for a long time. If so, he is like millions of men who cheat themselves and the woman they care about out of a life that would make you both very happy. He is obviously afraid - possibly even phobic -- about commitment. Is there anything you can do to help him take the step that will bring ultimate happiness to both of you? The answer is "yes," and the solutions are simple, easy adjustments that will cost you nothing and will end up bringing the fulfillment and commitment you've dreamed of.
