How To Get a Man To Change

The most effective way to get a man to change is to accept him as he is. Sound crazy? It works if it’s sincere and respectful.

When you try to get a man to change, he knows you don’t think he’s okay the way he is. Why should he? And he certainly won’t feel understood. This makes him defensive, which causes him to guard his hearthttp://www.alivewithlove.com.from you. This is not going to cause him to want to make any changes for you.

In the beginning of a relationship you think he’s wonderful. Have you noticed that’s when he can’t get enough of you? That’s when he thinks about you all the time and calls you just to talk. That’s also when he’s romantic, takes you places, buys you gifts, and wants to give you the world. A man falls in love because of how you make him feel about himself. When you let him know how wonderful you think he is, as you did in the beginning, you made him feel like a man. That just so happens to be what he craves from you more than anything. It’s actually the most important secret (#12) in my book, Men Made Easy: A man wants to be with a woman who makes him feel like a man.

When the newness wears off, so does the sheen. That’s when you begin to see areas where he can be improved. And that’s exactly when his desire to romance you begins to fade.

It’s a woman’s nature to want to improve and beautify, but it backfires when it’s the man she’s trying to change. If you can bring yourself to accept him just as he is (secret #2)—and this may be really difficult at first—you’ll see subtle shifts take place. As he feels understood, he learns to trust that you’re sincere. That’s when he’ll relax and start doing those things you’ve been asking him to do.

Read How To Get a Man To Do What You Want, to find out how.

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