He May Dump You When He’s Stressed
June 19, 2010 by Kara Oh
Filed under All About Dating
If you’re still developing a relationship with a man and he begins to pull away, one reason might be because of job or money stress, dealing with children issues, or parents. These are all things he has no choice but to deal with them.
If you’re not yet an established couple, it’s very common for him to stop calling as often, stop texting, stop emailing and even stop dating. One reason he may decide to stop seeing you is you become too needy. It’s when he begins to pull away that you’re most likely to start contacting him more often than you had been. You get nervous, clingy and needy. And you begin to complain that your needs are not being met.
In the beginning, when he’s still deciding if he wants to develop a relationship with you, he’s noticing how you treat him, how demanding you are, how kind and considerate, how good or bad you make him feel, and whether it’s stressful or not to be with you. If he feels like you’re a drain in him in any way, he’ll usually stop seeing you.
With your added details, I’d say you must be coming across too needy. Men need to do the pursuing, and set the tone for how often there’s contact. Most women need way more contact than most men. They need to be reassured, need to know where the relationship is going, need to see that things are moving forward. And if things slow down at all, they tend to start calling, texting, emailing and questioning what’s up. In the very early stages of a relationship, this is a real turn-off to most men.
To be the kind of woman a man falls in love with, you need to focus on being responsible for your own happiness, setting boundaries, expecting respect, being confident and happy. You can do all that in such a way that you glow with inner beauty rather than how many women do it, by being bitchy and behaving in ugly ways. There’s an art to knowing how to treat men so they can’t stand the thought of losing you. But most women have no clue how to do this. I call this way of being Feminine Grace and it’s an important part of the secrets I teach in Men Made Easy. With this winning combination, you can be the woman he falls in love with.
This article “He may dump you when he’s stressed” is my man! He is a wonderful man. We have been seeing/talking to each other for almost six months on and off. I would love for the relationship to be more but he can’t do that right now. In fact, he has stopped calling me and I haven’t seen in over a month. He has told me more than once how he feels attracted to me that I’m beautiful, sexy,intelligent, etc. And I have told him similar things. The sex is great and is an important part of the relationship but this is also a long distance relationship. He lives a fair distance away and feels he must be the one to make the trip to see me. Also, he has a child that he must care for on the weekends. It’s a difficult time and I don’t want to see anyone else at this point. So I am waiting to see what happens. . .
As long as you’re okay with the waiting… Just be sure that you are honoring yourself. Too often, women forget about that most important aspect of self care.