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Monogamy, Is It Worth It?
Men prefer sex with love. But they generally have a strong sex drive because those hunters who were the most easily aroused got the most women pregnant, passing on their genes. Biology again. Because the drive is so strong, they need to do something with it. It's asking too much of them to stifle it. And since it's the best way to create a strong bond between a man and a woman, why not make the very most of it? If we think of monogamy as a path to the deepest love, it can be a beautiful thing. If we want it as a way to control and own our partner, then it runs counter to our highest aspirations. Love and intimacy is the goal of marriage, not ownership. Monogamous sex can be the best sex you've ever experienced.
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So, why are men willing to try and even want monogamy? As we've moved away from survival, we have the luxury of wanting more emotional connection. We all want more from our relationships. Men like being in a loving relationship, it makes them feel complete. My guess is that about 25% of men are going to roam, no matter how good their relationship is at home. But for the others, because they value home, family, and their partner, they don't roam, or wouldn't if they were getting their sexual needs met.
