Comments on: Five Things a Woman Can Do to Improve Her Relationship – Right Now! http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/ Kara Oh - Your Guide to Greater Love Sat, 28 Jan 2012 21:51:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kara Oh http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-1251 Kara Oh Fri, 02 Dec 2011 16:43:30 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-1251 Hi Kristie, I'm a bit confused. You're right in wanting to leave him. But why not just tell him you're done? This is the perfect time to do it because he is away. Tell him you appreciate the time you were together, but you need to move on. Thank him and wish him well. Period. You don't owe him any more than that. If he causes trouble, have some of your male friends there to give you the support you need. Hi Kristie,

I’m a bit confused. You’re right in wanting to leave him. But why not just tell him you’re done? This is the perfect time to do it because he is away. Tell him you appreciate the time you were together, but you need to move on. Thank him and wish him well. Period. You don’t owe him any more than that. If he causes trouble, have some of your male friends there to give you the support you need.

]]> By: kristie http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-1232 kristie Sun, 06 Nov 2011 13:57:50 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-1232 Help! i am sooo confused right now. I have a boyfriend whom i have been with for a year until he had to go overseas to study.Our relationship was ok. It was niether good nor bad. I wasn't very happy with him because i felt he was a control freak, very needy and jealous too. He hates it when i keep in contact with male acquaintances because he thinks i hook up with all of them even though i explain countless times that they are just friends.It always feels like am walking on eggshells when an with him. We never seem to understand each other and are constantly at each others' throats quarreling over so many things.And now it feels like he's a nag and a very irritating one. He always gives me the cold or silent treatment when he doesn't get his way, yet he doesn't like to listen to me and see my perspective too. Yet, i know he loves me deeply and is seeking long - term commitment. I also believe the distance has played a part in our problems.He's been very supportive and i have always believed that things can be better between us.He has gotten violent before, once.Because he thought i was cheating... again. I want to end it with him because i want to be happy and free to be me and live how i want to live but i feel i might be making a mistake....Help??? Help! i am sooo confused right now. I have a boyfriend whom i have been with for a year until he had to go overseas to study.Our relationship was ok. It was niether good nor bad. I wasn’t very happy with him because i felt he was a control freak, very needy and jealous too. He hates it when i keep in contact with male acquaintances because he thinks i hook up with all of them even though i explain countless times that they are just friends.It always feels like am walking on eggshells when an with him. We never seem to understand each other and are constantly at each others’ throats quarreling over so many things.And now it feels like he’s a nag and a very irritating one. He always gives me the cold or silent treatment when he doesn’t get his way, yet he doesn’t like to listen to me and see my perspective too. Yet, i know he loves me deeply and is seeking long – term commitment. I also believe the distance has played a part in our problems.He’s been very supportive and i have always believed that things can be better between us.He has gotten violent before, once.Because he thought i was cheating… again. I want to end it with him because i want to be happy and free to be me and live how i want to live but i feel i might be making a mistake….Help???

]]> By: Love lost http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-600 Love lost Mon, 23 May 2011 19:57:16 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-600 My boyfriend and I were so much in love until he thinks that I was cheating on him. I had talk to male co workers, just at work, saying hi and a little talk. After work, no contact. He does not trust me at all and he constantly think that I am cheating. I don't consider co workers as love affairs but he does not see it that way. How can I make our relationship last without him thinking I am a cheater? Fyi..3 year and a half relationship My boyfriend and I were so much in love until he thinks that I was cheating on him. I had talk to male co workers, just at work, saying hi and a little talk. After work, no contact. He does not trust me at all and he constantly think that I am cheating. I don’t consider co workers as love affairs but he does not see it that way. How can I make our relationship last without him thinking I am a cheater? Fyi..3 year and a half relationship

]]> By: Kara Oh http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-597 Kara Oh Tue, 10 May 2011 13:25:32 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-597 He's either not that into you or he has a low libido or other issues. I've found that there's not much a woman can do when her desire for sex is greater than the man's. He’s either not that into you or he has a low libido or other issues. I’ve found that there’s not much a woman can do when her desire for sex is greater than the man’s.

]]> By: Kara Oh http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-596 Kara Oh Tue, 10 May 2011 13:24:38 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-596 When a man (or woman) is abusive and disrespectful, you should walk away. This kind of man will not change, no matter what a woman does. It makes me a little bit crazy when women write to me wanting to use my Secrets on this kind of man. I'm happy for you that you have walked away from this man. The lesson is to not get involved with someone like that ever again. When a man (or woman) is abusive and disrespectful, you should walk away. This kind of man will not change, no matter what a woman does. It makes me a little bit crazy when women write to me wanting to use my Secrets on this kind of man. I’m happy for you that you have walked away from this man. The lesson is to not get involved with someone like that ever again.

]]> By: Katie http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-550 Katie Sun, 03 Apr 2011 19:07:42 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-550 You are right. As I was looking at your advice I was in my head trying to imagine what would have happened if I had applied this to a bad relationship that I have just come out of. The answer is that I think I did try many of those tactics but my partner was disrespectful and abusive and no advice no matter how good it was would have changed that. Walking away from an argument would have helped but it would not have solved anything long term. This advice is to be followed if I ever meet someone who is mature and worth entering into and working to maintain a healthy mutually loving relationship with. I hope your other reader takes that advice to. You are right. As I was looking at your advice I was in my head trying to imagine what would have happened if I had applied this to a bad relationship that I have just come out of. The answer is that I think I did try many of those tactics but my partner was disrespectful and abusive and no advice no matter how good it was would have changed that. Walking away from an argument would have helped but it would not have solved anything long term. This advice is to be followed if I ever meet someone who is mature and worth entering into and working to maintain a healthy mutually loving relationship with. I hope your other reader takes that advice to.

]]> By: Sondra http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-541 Sondra Wed, 23 Mar 2011 05:15:22 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-541 What if the guy you are with is not very sexual? It seems sometimes that I want/enjoy sex more than him. What if the guy you are with is not very sexual? It seems sometimes that I want/enjoy sex more than him.

]]> By: LC http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-538 LC Wed, 16 Mar 2011 15:32:47 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-538 I found out on Christmas Day that my husband of 28 years has been carrying on a long distance 12 year emotional affair with one of our casual friends. She really was not a friend of mine but I could tell there was an attraction between this woman and my husband. I found a text message on Christmas Day of 2010 and I asked him about it and initially he denied it and then lied about who this was. He had her phone no in his cell phone contact list under a fake name. After several talks he finally admitted that they had been keeping in contact with each other since our kids were little and denies any physical contact.He says they were just friends and he does admit to keeping this relationship a secret from me. He did not want me to know they were talking. When I asked him why he says she was easy to talk to. Our marriage during this time was distant and now I know why. Needless to say I am devastated and hurt and feel very betrayed. He wants to make the marriage work but Im not sure I can ever trust him again. What to do? I found out on Christmas Day that my husband of 28 years has been carrying on a long distance 12 year emotional affair with one of our casual friends. She really was not a friend of mine but I could tell there was an attraction between this woman and my husband. I found a text message on Christmas Day of 2010 and I asked him about it and initially he denied it and then lied about who this was. He had her phone no in his cell phone contact list under a fake name. After several talks he finally admitted that they had been keeping in contact with each other since our kids were little and denies any physical contact.He says they were just friends and he does admit to keeping this relationship a secret from me. He did not want me to know they were talking. When I asked him why he says she was easy to talk to. Our marriage during this time was distant and now I know why. Needless to say I am devastated and hurt and feel very betrayed. He wants to make the marriage work but Im not sure I can ever trust him again. What to do?

]]> By: Kara Oh http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-526 Kara Oh Mon, 31 Jan 2011 05:36:37 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-526 No, what I teach will not work on a man who is disrespectful of you. You can't change a man like this. Go find someone who makes you feel cherished. You're attached to him simply because he's a habit. Get a new habit. No, what I teach will not work on a man who is disrespectful of you. You can’t change a man like this. Go find someone who makes you feel cherished. You’re attached to him simply because he’s a habit. Get a new habit.

]]> By: christine http://www.alivewithlove.com/five-things-a-woman-can-do-to-improve-her-relationship-right-now/172/comment-page-1/#comment-493 christine Sun, 19 Dec 2010 16:58:52 +0000 http://www.alivewithlove.com/?p=172#comment-493 i am so unhappy in my relationship with my boyfriend right now. he acted harshly sometimes. he also make me cry in uncountable times by taking me for granted sometimes. he told too often to understand him. but how can i do that if he's not letting me feel he still loves me. i want him so badly. i just want him back the way he was before. i should try to apply your advices in our relationship. i think it will work!! i am so unhappy in my relationship with my boyfriend right now. he acted harshly sometimes. he also make me cry in uncountable times by taking me for granted sometimes. he told too often to understand him. but how can i do that if he’s not letting me feel he still loves me. i want him so badly. i just want him back the way he was before. i should try to apply your advices in our relationship. i think it will work!!

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