Five Reasons Nice Men Don’t Call Back

April 12, 2010 by  
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Five Reasons Nice Men Don’t Call Back

And the Two Reasons When You Haven’t Done Any of the Five Things Listed Below

One of the biggest dating issues women have with men is, “Why didn’t he call back?” We know why insensitive men don’t call back, they’re creeps. But what about men who seem too nice to be that rude? After talking to a lot of men about this problem, this is what it boils down to:  

  1.  She said too much. Men tell me that many women go into way too much detail about their past relationships, especially of a sexual nature. Men don’t want to hear it; even if they ask, to tell them. 
  2. She talked about all the bad things every man ever did to herhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.and she blames me. Men hate it when a woman blames them for what some jerk before them did to her. It’s like they’re guilty until proven innocent. 
  3. She’s angry at men. She’s got a chip on her shoulder about men and carries a bit of anger toward all menhttp://www.alivewithlove.com.simply because they’re men. This is a variation on #2 but it’s about men in general, rather than specific men and incidences.
  4. She lacks some or all of the qualities he’s looking for. Most any woman’s list of expectations regarding men, marriage, and relationships is pretty long. Consequently, most women settle for a man that lacks some of the qualities she’s looking for. A man’s list is very short. For example, if a man’s list of what he’s looking for in that special woman is four items long, if one item is missing, that’s one/quarter of what he needs. If its missing, he’s gonehttp://www.alivewithlove.com.without an explanation. 
  5. She has sex too soon. Yes, most men want to get a woman into bed as soon as possible. But, if a woman he’s really interested in has sex with him too soon, he quits calling because he figures if she did it with him so easily, she probably did with others, equally soon in the relationship. It’s a double standard, of course, but I’m just reporting the news. And ladies, don’t say, “I don’t usually have sex so soon.” He won’t believe it, even if it’s true because that’s what every other woman says. He wants to think you’re kind of pure, and maybe only had sex with the few men you were truly in love with. Wait to have sex until you think this man could become Mr. Right. He’ll respect your desire to wait. If not, isn’t it nice to find out now so you don’t waste another moment with him. 

Okay, you haven’t done any of those things but he still doesn’t call back. Again, setting aside that he isn’t an insensitive creep, what’s the deal?  

Here are the two reasons that it boils down to: 

  1. He’s not ready
  2. You’re not the right one. 

Pretty simple. What you need to learn to do is say, “Next.” 

I hope this sheds some light on why men do those frustrating things they do. If you want to understand men from the inside out, like what’s going on in their hearts, minds and souls, you’ll want to learn everything I share in Men Made Easy.

From my heart to yours,
Kara Oh

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Comments

4 Responses to “Five Reasons Nice Men Don’t Call Back”
  1. Tamera says:

    hello Kara,
    I think your site is interesting. I have a problem. My guy, has had alot of frusterations here lately. We are close friends. He tells me he is physically attracted to me, but the emotional level isn’t there. That was two weeks ago….and since then the emotional side has developed at little……to the point that he tells me things, he says, he’s never told anyone before! He kisses me, yet tells me he’s just not where I am. He holds back affection…yet he flirts with me when we are out! I love him so much…and I know he is going through some pretty steep emotional issues of his own…..and all I know to do is be there to support him and the decisions he is making and offer him comfort when things are diffucult. I praise him and tell him how handsome he is and how strong he is and I caress his face and do sweet things for him….he does sweet things for me….but it’s like he’s in a “sewing my wild oats” type of mind set. He was in a marriage where there was no physical connection outside of sex…so maybe that is it. I try to love on him with out sex to show him I am into him…not just his sex…….his soul! What else can i do??

  2. Anne says:

    I am a bit offended by the sex thing. Just because it’s a man’s nature to pretty much screw whatever comes his way doesn’t justify anything. If a woman has sex too soon SO HAS HE!! Who’s to say HE hasn’t slept with all the women he met too soon?

    • Kara Oh says:

      I don’t believe it’s a man’s nature to “pretty much screw whatever comes their way.” Some do and some don’t, and as men mature, they become much more selective, as do women. The big difference here is that men are much more capable of having sex without any kind of emotional involvement. Women often, maybe usually, need to believe that he at cares, at least a little. And women tend to get emotionally attached after they’ve had intercourse, men, not so much. If a woman is looking for just a good time, there is no ‘too soon.’ If she wants a committed relationship, then she needs to hold off until she is IN a committed relationship, meaning, there’s been a conversation and agreement that you will date and have sex with ONLY that one man.

    • Codec says:

      @ Anne, you might have been divorced for only GOD knows the number of times, that is how you sound. If you wanted to compete with men and his nature, yu should have come to this world has a man.

      “He that finds a wife finds a good thing”, get used to that it’s 2010.

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