Don’t Dump Him Over Something Dumb!

How to get a man to do what you want.

Women often write to me describing a terrific man, then they finish with, “But there’s this one thinghttp://www.alivewithlove.com.” Sometimes it’s a big deal and I let them know this is not something you want to get involved with. But often, it’s something minor and should not stop her from continuing to date a man.

Say it’s something like she want’s him to open the car door for her, but he doesn’t. When you want something you should ask for it. Keeping in mind that it’s not important enough to stop you from seeing him, it’s best to be light about your request.

Say something like this:

This may seem like a silly thing, but it would make me feel so special if you opened the car door for me. I don’t know what it is, but it makes me feel so womanly when a man opens the car does that for me. Would you mind terribly doing this for me?

He may have a reason for not doing this. Listen to him and be open to not getting your way. When I got married, we made a deal that he would open the car door for me when I was dressed up. I like it when we’re walking to the car and a man opens the door for me, but it seems kind of silly when I sit there by myself, waiting for him to walk around to my side so I can get out.

The most important thing is that you work together to come up with a solution you’re both happy with. This is also something to pay attention to as how you would resolve conflict in the future, if you do become a committed couple.

To let a great guy go over something that is not that important in the overall picture of what makes up a relationship is not a good idea. It could be that it is a sign that he is not respectful, but I would give it more time to determine who he really is. In Men Made Easy, I’ll teach you about how to get more of what you want from a man.

From my heart to yours,