The Cost of a Less Than Perfect Body

My expertise is understanding men. That means I know what they want, what they’re attracted to for a ‘real’ relationship (not just sexual attraction), what causes them to fall in love, and what makes them want to stay with a woman and commit to her for the long term. The sad thing is... Continue reading

What is Feminine Grace?

I introduced the concept of Feminine Grace™ ten years ago in the first edition of Men Made Easy. It’s the foundation by which a woman should live her life, if she wants to be her happiest, with an immeasurable capacity to give and receive love. I’m working on finishing the book so many... Continue reading

Are You a High Maintenance Woman?

Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with high maintenance women. You’ve heard of High Maintenance women but do you know what that means? Hopefully, after I explain this sad malady, you’ll cleanse any HM behavior you might have going. First, a high maintenance woman needs things to be... Continue reading

How to Handle Seeing Your Ex

What do you do to keep your composure when you know you’re going to an event where you will run into your ex? I get this question a lot and here’s what I’d do if I was in the same situation. Imagine he’s got on some stupid outfit, like a clown suit, or a stuffed animal, or something... Continue reading

Never Diminish Yourself For Any Man

  I was just watching an older woman (at least 75) and her husband. She was enthusiastically pointing at something, wanting to share with her husband. When he ignored her, she turned to follow him, her head down, obviously feeling bad for not being acknowledged. Watching her brought tears to my... Continue reading

The Pathway To Expanding Love

  More love and happiness for you; that’s my motivation in everything I do. Because we all come from diverse backgrounds, when we connect with another, all those old habits and perspectives come with us. We call it baggage, but it’s not necessarily that it’s negative, it’d sometimes just... Continue reading

Feminine Grace

This video was posted by my friend, Scott Clark, of RocketRadio in Enid, Oklahoma, near Tulsa, my old high school stomping ground. This song and the way they’ve done the video is the perfect antithesis of Feminine Grace. If you don’t know what Feminine Grace is, in a nutshell, it’s... Continue reading

What I’ve Learned

I’ve learned: That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. I’ve learned: That when you’re in love, it shows. I’ve learned: That just one person saying to me, “You’ve made my day!” makes my day. I’ve learned: That having a child... Continue reading

A Quick Guide For Women

If you truly want a better relationship with more love, romance and respct, you need to know the secrets about men that I reveal in my book, Men Made Easy. Available in paperback or instantly downloadable in e-book, you will be invited into his private world. And that is when you’ll finally get... Continue reading

What is the Goal of An Argument: Combat or Communication?

Sometimes, when we get angry, our words simply pour out. We don’t think about what they mean and what impact they will have. When we get to that state we’re so deep into our feelings that we feel like we’re being swallowed up by them. Women tell me, after explaining some blow-up they... Continue reading

The More You Like YOU, The More He’ll Like You

There are some great lyrics in a Reba McEntire song, “Who I am is who I want to be.” Oh, if we could all live that way. The closer you get to that point, the more attractive you will be. Really! The closer you can get to that point the happier, more centered, more at peace, more able to love... Continue reading

3 Steps To Instant Happiness

Have you ever been in a funk and wished you had a non-pharmacuitical way to get out of it instantly? Well, there is a way and it’s takes just 3 steps: Step 1) Take off your clothes off (either all the way or down to your underwear) Step 2) Put on your favorite lively music Step 3) Start dancing your... Continue reading

He Sees YOU but He’s Attracted To Your Energy

Your energy can be felt from across the room. If you’re doing the online dating thing, your energy comes through in your profile, the photo you select and how you interact with men via email, then on the phone. It’s funny, when I started writing “From Flirting To Forever, How To Get... Continue reading

Love, Love, Love…Blah, Blah, Blah

Someone asked me the following question today and I thought it would be an interesting topic to post here: Hi Kara, I have some very good friends who tell everyone, even people on FB that they’ve never met that they “Love” them. While I appreciate the compassion and sentiment, I think it’s inauthentic.... Continue reading

Tricks For Dealing With Unpleasant People

When I am required to interact with someone who is unpleasant in any way, here are some tricks I use to get through it: 1) I add a bit of inner humor by assuming their hemorrhoids are acting up. We aren’t as likely to get triggered if we’re enjoying a private joke. 2) I imagine a bubble of light... Continue reading

Are You Putting Your Life Off For Later?

Life is about living. In what ways are you putting off the “E Tickets” of life? So much of what we focus on is about tomorrow. Yes, it’s good to plan and have our security in place. Set goals and get those ducks lined up. But what I notice is that we spend so much time planning, doing,... Continue reading