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There’s a man I’ve been seeing at the gym for months. We have sort of smiled on occasion but nothing more. I thought I saw him at Starbucks so today, when I was at the gym and he was right next to me, I asked him if I’d seen him at the coffee shop. It wasn’t but we ended up in the nicest conversation. Here’s a line that doesn’t have to be true: “Did I see you at Starbucks on Tuesday morning?” “No, it wasn’t me.” “Well, then, there’s someone out there that looks a lot like you.” What comes next is up to you.

Then Tuesday evening an older, grumpy looking man and I were the last two left at the car wash. While we waited for the washers to finish I noticed the full moon just next to the Nordstrom tower. I asked if he’d seen it yet. It turned out he wasn’t grumpy at all and we shared a really nice conversation.

My point is that even when someone seems shut off, grumpy, or uninterested in those around them, almost always it takes very little to get a conversation started. Without a conversation, no one is going to be asking for or giving a phone number. Remember, meeting someone is a numbers game. The more people you talk to the greater your odds of finding someone. So, even though it might feel scary to start a conversation with a stranger, almost always, once you do, you’re both glad you did.

With much love and encouragement,
Kara