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This is kind of embarrassing but I had an experience at Nordstrom yesterday and wanted to find out if some of you have had the same thing happen. I was trying on shoes and found myself attracted to a woman who was also trying on shoes. I don’t mean in a romantic way, but her energy caused me to keep looking at her I wondered if it is what a man feels when he spots an attractive women. She and I made eye contact a few times and smiled at each other, and while she was walking around with her 5″ heels on (she was close to 6′ tall) we shared a few playful words. Then at the check-out counter we enjoyed more conversation.

I was aware that I was drawn to her energy and tried to figure out what it was about her that made me want to see if a friendship was possible. I’m very outgoing, comfortable chatting with new people, as was she, and we were both about the same level of attractiveness. Not particularly beautiful but healthy and interesting. If I’d met her at a luncheon or at a party I would have drawn her into a deeper conversation and hopefully, she would have been interested in getting to know me better too. I would have asked her if she would like to go for lunch sometime and gotten her phone number. But, alas, doing that in the shoe department of Nordstrom just didn’t seem like the best idea. Now, just like that moment of connection with the opposite gender, I find my revisiting that experience.

I’m often asked to give advice on how opposite genders can meet but I’ve never written about same sex meetings. Finding same sex friends is as much a numbers game as opposite gender pairings. For me, finding girlfriends that I really enjoy and feel a connection with is equally as important as finding that special man.

I’m wondering if others of you have had the same experience. My boyfriend, Chris, has had that kind of experience with men, but it’s even less okay for him to see if the other man wants to go for a cup of coffee. He would like to have a few men friends to hang out with but as open as he is, he finds it almost impossible. His two best friends live too far away to just hang out.

I’d love to hear from you if you have had the same kind of experience as I had.

With much love,
Kara