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I haven’t blogged lately for whatever reason. Just really involved in my other writing. But this morning I got a reaction from a woman who had signed up for my What Men Won’t Tell You…But I Will series of emails. I’d love your opinion as to whether it sounds like I tell women they need to sleep with a man to keep him.

She said: “Don´t cheat woman with that lie, that they most go to sleep with a man to keep him!!!!!!!!”

My response to her is here and the original message that she was responding to is below that:
Dear C.,

I have never, ever told women, in my books, articles, workshops, seminars or speeches that they should sleep with a man to keep him. On the contrary, I think women should wait until they’re certain that a man is in love (and that doesn’t mean just hearing the words) before sleeping with him. The fact that you misunderstood what I meant means I need to rewrite the piece below. Thank you for showing me where I need to be more clear.

What the truth is about men is they’ve been denied true intimacy and heart connection because they have been taught by society, by their family, by their culture, by the media, by coaches, and other boys and men that it’s sissy to actually be emotional and express what they’re really feeling. But by all of those same people and groups, they’ve been encouraged to have s>>ex; that it means they’re being a man. Men are hungry for real intimacy, even more than women are, because they have no outlets for heart-to-heart sharing of their deepest feelings.

When a woman truly understands a man, and realizes that she has the power to give him non-physical intimacy in ways that he can feel safe enough to be open to it, she becomes a treasure to him. When he has that kind of understanding and safety, he will cherish the woman who can give that to him. The goal of EVERYTHING I do is for both sides of a relationship to win. Without a win/win relationship, it will fall apart.

And the original email:
What Men Won’t Tell You #14:
What men won’t tell you is that s>>ex is the only way most men
know how to be intimate. We want intimacy and so do they but we
have lots of ways to be intimate. Sharing our hearts is one of the
most important. But not for him. He won’t tell you how uncomfortable,
almost painful it is for him to express anything that comes near to
sharing his feelings. That’s because he’s been taught not to express
his feelings, to show weakness. But one way they have been taught
that it’s okay to get close to a woman is physically. They want
closeness but they don’t know how to get it except sexually. And
even then, they don’t let themselves get as close emotionally as
they might like. If only they knew how good it could feel.

That’s where Men Made Easy comes in. when he feels truly under-
stood he’ll be able to let down his guard like never before and
you’ll enjoy a deeper bond of love and heart connection because
his ability to experience a braoder range of intimacy will be
possible. It’s in your hands. (End of post.)

I’d love to hear from you…

With much Love,
Kara