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I’ve been talking to professional Matchmakers and I’m learning a lot. If you’re dating here are just some of the things you need to know because you might be doing some of these things without realizing it…and wondering why there’s no interest in another date:

a. Women approach dating the same way they do work, set the goal then conquer it. Men tell them that when they go on a first date with some women they feel like they’re on a job interview. I recommend you relax and just see what happens. At the very least, you’ll meet someone new. And leave that power suit at home. Dress like you enjoy being a woman.

b. Men are too picky about how they need a woman’s body to be. Gentlemen, you’re getting way too hung up on breast size. I recommend you get a movie with Camoran Diaz, or Niomi Cambell, Kate Hudson and her mom, Goldie Hahn, Wanona Ryder, Debra Messing or Holly Hunter. One of those must be attractive to you. See, they don’t have to have big ones. If you’re too focused on breast size you’re narrowing the playing field more than you should and maybe missing out on a very juicy lady who meets all your other criteria.

c. Women push too hard to have sex. This may seem like the opposite of the stereotype but it’s one of the things men are complaining about. Maybe they’re just needing to get laid, or maybe they think that’s what a man wants. But a man who has plunked down several thousand dollars is looking for someone to settle down with. He needs to respect the woman he chooses. Yes, I know, there’s a double standard, but he assumes that if you’re too quick to hop into bed with him, that’s what you do with all men. Plus, he want’s to get to know you first. What a concept.

d. Women don’t wear make-up on their dates. This one really surprised me. I had no idea this was going on. But what they tell the Matchmakers is that “he should appreciate the real me.” It’s the same thing women who are overweight say. It’s not that men like makeup, it’s that you cared enough to make the effort. I know for me, Chris says I don’t need make-up. And there’s some truth to that, as far as he’s concerned. But if that’s completely true, why does he perk up with lots of compliments about how great I look when I spiff up to go out with him. Ladies, too much make-up is bad but no make-up is worse.

there’s lots more to share with you, which is why I’m designing the Dating seminars that you can attend (via telephone conference) beginning in September. To get on my mailing list and learn more sign up for my newsletter to the left. You’ll be the first to know.

With much love,
Kara