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It seems to me that one of the reasons for staying young is that many of us are finding love again after the age of 50. I am 58 and my “boyfriend” (I don’t like that term because he is so much more than that) is 61. We are certainly vain, in that we both enjoy looking our best, but more than that, we feel kind of cheated (while at the same time feeling so very grateful) that we finally found the kind of love we have longed for so late in life. We wish we were in our 30’s because that would mean, barring unforseen circumstances, we would have many vibrant, healthy, youthful years to enjoy each other. So now we’re milking it for all it’s worth.

There’s something kind of simple and clean when people fall in love past age 50. They don’t fall prey to the stereotypes of more youthful lovers. We have worked through much of our “issues”, our “stuff”, so that we can be more honest with who we are and be willing to accept our partners for who they are.

It helps that Chris and I have been dedicated to personal growth and self discover for most of our adult lives. We’re so much more appreciative of each other. What we offer to each other is simple honesty. Being older allows that. Being of similar ages also allows a kind of enjoyment that he, (who typically dated women 10 to 15 years younger [because he could, that’s why]) never knew could be enjoyed. That is, we can comisserate about aches and pains, wrinkles, and the like. He doesn’t have to hide his aging from a younger woman. We are embracing our age in as positive a way as we can.

But older love is our reality and because we want to enjoy as many good, vibrant, healthy years together as possible, we are dedicated to taking good care of ourselves and each other. We encourage each other to work out, eat right, be joyous, playful, and to have lots of great sex. ‘-)

Sex, that’s another of those things that makes you feel young and, at the same time, keeps you young. We agree that when we were in our 30’s and 40’s, we would never have guessed that our best sex would be at 58 and 61. Talk about a great big awakening. Yahoo! What a way-cool thing to discover.

When you know that someone has been alone for a long time, not enjoying love or sex, there’s often a kind of pastiness that comes over them. Have you noticed? It’s not only visible, it also colors their personalities and their outlook on life. Sadly, because there are fewer men than women, and because most men prefer younger woman, there are a lot of women who walk around with that pastiness. Thankfully for them, they have lots of outlets for living vibrantly, without a man, if they so choose. That’s one reason it’s a good idea to let go of needing a man. If one comes along, that’s great, but going without should not take away from a woman’s quality of life.

For those of us who are lucky enough to find a great partner after age 50, never take it for granted. If you celebrate it, cherish it and let it wash over you and through you you will discover that love, not a potion, is the true fountain of youth.

With much love,
Kara