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Okay… What’s the deal with women showing up for a date without make-up? Their reasoning is that "he needs to like the real me." Well, what he sees is that the real you doesn’t care about your appearance and that you don’t have any interest in trying to put your best foot forward, to make a good impression. Men don’t like a lot of make-up but they really like that a woman puts in some effort to look nice for her date. So if you’re sincere about finding a man, show it by making the effort to look nice.

But you guys, you’re definitely not off the hook. What’s the deal with wearing a T-shirt, shorts, and flip flops? Pretty much any woman would be completely turned off. And while you’re at it, bathe. I get so many women complaining that men smell bad when they show up for a date. Maybe you had a long day but geez, it doesn’t take that long to jump in the shower, soap up, and rinse.

Why not go back to the good old days of trying to impress each other. Look your bright, shiny best. Brush your teeth, fix your hair, be clean and pressed, smile, be enthusiastic about learning about each other. Mostly, GET RID OF THE CHIP!!! Yes, you’ve been burned. Yes, you’ve been disappointed. Yes, it’s not easy. But what if you finally have "the one" sitting across from you but that chip on your shoulder is keeping you from being able to see straight.

Actually, everywhere you go, put your best foot forward and wear your brightest smile. You never know if the next person you meet might be Mr. or Ms. Right. Or maybe their brother or sister or best friend is the perfect person for you. You want that referral. When you’re selling yourself at work you do your best to shine. Well, use those work skills in your social life and see what you might be able to create.

Looking like you don’t care is NOT going to get you noticed. If you really want to find someone to share your life with (and you need to check in to see if you really do) then you need to change your attitude to one of receiving the good stuff that life is wanting to give you. But it’s not going to happen if you don’t put in the effort.

With much love,
Kara
The Heart Specialist™

"Celebrate Life – Be Happy"