Women compliment each other all the time. We’re used to it. But men, I discovered when I was doing my research for my book, hardly ever get any kind of compliment or appreciation, from anyone, at work or at home.
Here’s what Men’s Health Editor, Davie Zinczenko says in his new book, Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User’s Guide for Women: “Less than one in four men say they regularly receive positive reinforcement from the women in their lives, but guys want that even more than they want the Saturday digital football package. Just because we have an interior more heavily vaulted than a Brinks truck doesn’t mean you can’t crack us.”
In my book, Men Made Easy, I stress throughout how important it is for a woman to appreciate her man. When he compliments you or offers his appreciation, you feel good, youfeel like we’re not being taken for granted, and you feel noticed.
It means much, much more to a man. For him, it has to do with his entire sense of being a man. He wants to be a hero, successful, capable, strong, protective, and a great lover. One secret says A Man Is Driven To Make His Woman Happy. Another says To a Man, Failure Is Death. And still one more says, A Man Needs To Be Understood and Accepted For Who He Is. It’s all about being a good man for you. When you let him know that he’s doing a good job being your man, in all the ways you can, you have the power to make him stand taller, to feel great about himself, to feel successful…all because you give him regular doses of appreciation. This is the very best way to win a man’s heart and keep him in love with you. Men really are that easy.
With much love,
Kara
