Since love, romance, and satisfying relationships is my primary focus, I often read books on those topics. Last night I was reading Be Loved For Who You Really Are and there was a section that had a great suggestion. When things are bad, ask what’s right or good about what’s going on. If you will step back and away from the hurt you are feeling, there is always, always some lesson that can be learned. How we respond to outside influences has to do with our inner workings. A sales clerk is rude. One person will get angry at them, another might just steam quietly inside, another might just assume the sales clerk’s hemeroids are acting up and send them blessings. It’s the upsets that tend to have the good stuff buried beneath the pile of doo-doo. What can you learn about your childhood lessons about dealing with the situation that is causing you consternation? What does it tell you about what you believe about yourself? What does it tell you about what changes you need to make?
