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Slouch… That’s it, your quick lesson in how to turn a man off before he even focuses his eyes enough to determine the color of your hair. Lesson complete.

When I was interviewing men for my book I always asked what they found most attractive in a woman. It’s amazing how often they said good posture. I always joked in my stage presentations that it just made a woman’s breasts stick out but it really has to do with a woman’s level of self assurance. To a man, it says she’s happy with who she is, she’s takes pride in her appearance, she has a positive outlook on life, she’s healthy, and she’s happy. It is mostly subliminal but it’s screaming attractiveness. And attractiveness is part of attraction.

If your posture isn’t steller it’s easy to fix. Just stand up straight. You need to focus on it for as long as it takes to get the chest muscles to stretch and the back muscles to shorten. Maxwell Maltz says it takes 21 days to change a habit. Make it a lifetime change and you’ll have a better outlook on life; your chemistry will change; (If you don’t believe me, close your eyes, notice how you feel slouching and then standing up straight. You feel different inside.) and you will be perceived as more capable, younger, and more attractive. If you choose not to do something about your posture then you don’t really want to be happy.

With much love,
Karaa