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Many women complain that their man doesn’t say sweet, thoughtful, romantic things to them. But be careful of the man who has no difficulty saying “just the right things” but doesn’t treat you well.

In my book about men I talk about how you should pay more attention to a man’s actions than his words. Regardless of what nice words he says to you, or not, pay attention to how respectful he is, what he does for you, if he buys you gifts once in a while (and it’s not the dollar amount that matters, it’s that he’s being thoughtful), and even how he treats your family and friends.

A good man is someone you can be proud of when you are out with him. He likes doing things to make you happy. When I get emails from women asking “does he love me?” I always ask them what he’s “doing” to show his love. One of the secrets is “Men show love through action.” If he’s not doing anything for you, then he might not really love you, UNLESS… you’re one of those women who does so much for him that he’s gotten lazy. Then you don’t know what he’s capable of. If you’ve been spoiling him you can’t just stop cold-turkey. But you can back off a little bit at a time, then start coming up with opportunities to let him be your hero. If he doesn’t rise to the occasion maybe he’s just comfy and it’s easier to stay with you than it is to go through the work of finding someone new.

Take a hard look at your relationship and be honoest with yourself. You have much more control over the condition of your relationship than you might think. Don’t let The Settling get a foothold because it’s a path that leads to heartache and disappointment.

If you’re dating and looking for that great guy, notice on the first date how he treats you. You want someone who’s a gentleman. Let him open your door, help you with your coat. Let him be your hero and he’ll feel great about being a man. Keep letting him do nice things for you, thene appreciate the hell out of him. You’ll enjoy being a woman and he’ll enjoy being a man. He’ll think you’re the most amazing woman he’s ever met. See, I’ve been telling you men are easy.

With much love,
Kara