June 26, 2006
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I went to a Fiona Apple concert last night at the Santa Barabara Bowl. I had never heard of her but my son and his girlfriend invited me and my boyfriend to join them. Fiona was very entertaining. We were in the 7th row so we could really enjoy her intensity. What I noticed and wanted to comment on is how a very large percentage of the girls and young women were very much over weight. I don't mean a few extra pounds. I'm talking about enough extra weight that their health, if not already, will one day in the near future be at risk.
The fascinating thing is that they all wear the latest fashions, very skimpy, with lots of skin showing. What I don't get is (maybe I'm I just clueless) is this no longer unattractive? When I see someone who is the "right" weight (not one of those skinnines) my thought is that they look healthy. Healthy is attractive, unhealthy is not. I think it's great that the skinny look is seemingly going out of style (yes, there is still serious anorexia and bullimia issues) but why the shift to overweight? I'm mystified that so many young girls and women of all levels of beauty, are flaunting their fat?
I'm a size 4, weight 133 (want to be 127) and I have some "jigglies" on my butt so I never wear light colored pants unless they are a bit loose. And if my weight is slightly up, I am really selective about what to wear. Am I just overly self-absorbed or should I, too, just quit caring.
Can someone give me some insight into what this new fat flaunting thing might be about?
Joyfully,
Kara
July 1st, 2006 at 3:45 am
There are only 2 people who notices yourfat:
1. yourself
2. you sisters who have same esteem as yours.
Believe it or not.
July 1st, 2006 at 6:08 am
I’m afraid that I must disagree with you. I’m not talking about women who are simply over weight. (Meaning of overweight: Whatever weight puts you into the unhealthy catagory.) I’m talking about women who are wearing the skimpy low waisted jeans, high waisted tops, with the huge roll hanging over their waste band. EVERYONE notices, no matter the level of self-esteem, and I’m simply confused as to why a young woman would be so proud of being that unhealthy. I realize that they want to wear the youthful fashions but unhealthy is unattractive, at least when it is self-inflicted unhealthy.
My heart aches for anyone who suffers low self-esteem. My heart aches for anyone who suffers any kind of obvious health issues such as acne. But overweight is a self-induced health issue. My heart aches for women who struggle with their weight. Women are overweight for a lot of reasons. My daughter is a therapist who works with a lot of people who are seeking her assistance with weight loss. I know how difficult it can be. My intention is not to hurt anyone’s feelings. I simply want to understand this new phenomenon of young women exposing so much fat. Are they proud of it, are they aware that it is unattractive, are they simply getting used to it because obesity is rampant in U.S. society. In many cultures it is attractive and admired. Maybe our culture is shifting over. I simply want to understand. Cultural anthropology and sociology are my interests. I can’t help my need to understand. But, no matter the level of acceptance or even admiration, it is still unhealthy and that is at the bottom of my concerns. Why are young women flaunting their unhealthiness?
July 3rd, 2006 at 11:38 am
YOU think it’s unattractive. Please remember,it’s only your perception.
These girls flaunt their fat because, they know many people find it attractive. Because they love themselves, curves, rolls and all..
I know many men who would not give a second glance to a woman who’s not plump enough.
I say : «You go girls». It’s about time these girls started having fun, and realised that the «only a certain size is hot» conspiracy is nothing but a big lie.
Big women are appreciated in many cultures as you say. Everywhere in the world, people are getting bigger.
And American women have finally found out what many have known for a while. That they don’t have to run and hide and be ashamed of their bodies if they’re big.
People need to get over it.
Fat chicks are here to stay. And chubby chasers couldn’t be happier.